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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 619667" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I know you love your sister and want to help her, but you can't. Only she can help herself. In fact, all of us can only help one person...ourselves. She is not going to recover just because she is allowed to live eternally at home with her parents and sister, like a child. She is harming her own kids and really should not be risking having any more children...it is so irresponsible of her to keep having them. Is she taking drugs while pregnant? Drinking? Are the children experiencing substance abuse related issues, like fetal alcohol syndrome or affects of ingesting, say, cocaine in utero?If they are, remember, SHE did this to them and her addiction and refusal to treat that addiction is the cause. The right version of your sister, in my opinion only, is that she was once a nice person and that drugs have made her irresponsible and unstable and that she is the only person on earth who has control over the illness of her addiction. I'm not sure sympathy works for addicts. I'm more apt to think they need tough love. Again, this opinion, of course, is mine and mine alone.</p><p></p><p>In the end, the decision about whether or not to have her live back at home is in the hands of whomever owns the home. But whatever you decide to do, it won't help her. Only she can decide to stop using drugs and having unprotected sex while using them and also to grow up and act like a mature adult and mother.</p><p></p><p>I wish you luck. I hope you can all find a solution you can live with that will also not enable your sister.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 619667, member: 1550"] I know you love your sister and want to help her, but you can't. Only she can help herself. In fact, all of us can only help one person...ourselves. She is not going to recover just because she is allowed to live eternally at home with her parents and sister, like a child. She is harming her own kids and really should not be risking having any more children...it is so irresponsible of her to keep having them. Is she taking drugs while pregnant? Drinking? Are the children experiencing substance abuse related issues, like fetal alcohol syndrome or affects of ingesting, say, cocaine in utero?If they are, remember, SHE did this to them and her addiction and refusal to treat that addiction is the cause. The right version of your sister, in my opinion only, is that she was once a nice person and that drugs have made her irresponsible and unstable and that she is the only person on earth who has control over the illness of her addiction. I'm not sure sympathy works for addicts. I'm more apt to think they need tough love. Again, this opinion, of course, is mine and mine alone. In the end, the decision about whether or not to have her live back at home is in the hands of whomever owns the home. But whatever you decide to do, it won't help her. Only she can decide to stop using drugs and having unprotected sex while using them and also to grow up and act like a mature adult and mother. I wish you luck. I hope you can all find a solution you can live with that will also not enable your sister. [/QUOTE]
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