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Should we let her come home for a short while?
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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 33461" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I am glad things worked out as they did this time, Alice Lee. One of the hardest lessons husband and I had to learn was to "gird our loins" for the next round whenever something turned out well.</p><p></p><p>Try to keep your priorities straight where difficult child is concerned. "What you will do if" kinds of questions, so that you and husband are not taken unprepared if her situation changes. If you are going to have her home again, know in advance what your rules will be. If you are going to suggest a shelter, have the number and address available. If you are going to suggest a women's shelter, have that number, address, and rationale ready to go as well. (Which is an excellent idea, now that I think about it. Didn't you post initially that boyfriend was abusive to difficult child?)</p><p></p><p>She would receive counseling and information at a women's shelter that she would not have access to even if she did move back in with you and husband.</p><p></p><p>I would make some phone calls to shelters in the area, Alice Lee.</p><p></p><p>They may be able to help you know what to tell difficult child about recognizing and turning away from these kinds of relationships. </p><p></p><p>The other thing I would say is to remember that, although it does not feel much like it, you and husband are still teaching difficult child about what matters and what doesn't. I think it is important for us to say the words we want our kids to hear, whether we think they are listening or not.</p><p></p><p>I too admire your strength, Alice Lee.</p><p></p><p>I know this is all so different from anything you had hoped for when difficult child came into your lives.</p><p></p><p>You can do this.</p><p></p><p>And even though all this is so different than anythig you dreamed you would be copiing with as a parent, you are getting stronger every day, and doing well.</p><p></p><p>None of this is easy. Even doing the right things does not bring with it the same sense of a job well done that doing the right thing for a non-difficult child child does.</p><p></p><p>But you are on the right track now, and you are doing well.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 33461, member: 3353"] I am glad things worked out as they did this time, Alice Lee. One of the hardest lessons husband and I had to learn was to "gird our loins" for the next round whenever something turned out well. Try to keep your priorities straight where difficult child is concerned. "What you will do if" kinds of questions, so that you and husband are not taken unprepared if her situation changes. If you are going to have her home again, know in advance what your rules will be. If you are going to suggest a shelter, have the number and address available. If you are going to suggest a women's shelter, have that number, address, and rationale ready to go as well. (Which is an excellent idea, now that I think about it. Didn't you post initially that boyfriend was abusive to difficult child?) She would receive counseling and information at a women's shelter that she would not have access to even if she did move back in with you and husband. I would make some phone calls to shelters in the area, Alice Lee. They may be able to help you know what to tell difficult child about recognizing and turning away from these kinds of relationships. The other thing I would say is to remember that, although it does not feel much like it, you and husband are still teaching difficult child about what matters and what doesn't. I think it is important for us to say the words we want our kids to hear, whether we think they are listening or not. I too admire your strength, Alice Lee. I know this is all so different from anything you had hoped for when difficult child came into your lives. You can do this. And even though all this is so different than anythig you dreamed you would be copiing with as a parent, you are getting stronger every day, and doing well. None of this is easy. Even doing the right things does not bring with it the same sense of a job well done that doing the right thing for a non-difficult child child does. But you are on the right track now, and you are doing well. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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