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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 427890"><p>In contrast, I have a difficult child nephew who's 19, has been coddled and looked after all his life by his enabling mother who gave him a huge allowance in his teen years and hired lawyers every time he got into trouble and permitted him to laze about the house for years (has never had a job--his mother thinks that, since she can afford it, he should be free of employment until he finishes college, which he'll never do), and now he lives in an apartment she pays for (plus utilities and groceries and car insurance and health insurance and an allowance for spending money) because he's supposedly "in college" at the local community college but he just drops out of his classes and parties and skateboards instead, and she just keeps paying and paying. He's making zero progress toward becoming a functioning adult and it's at least partly her fault--she's making it too easy and comfortable for him, so why should he change? That's what happens when you fund a malfunctioning child past 18: you become part of the problem instead of part of the solution. After 18, only PCs in college full-time get financial help--period. Let the difficult children sink and hit bottom--it's the only way they'll have a fighting chance of pulling out of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 427890"] In contrast, I have a difficult child nephew who's 19, has been coddled and looked after all his life by his enabling mother who gave him a huge allowance in his teen years and hired lawyers every time he got into trouble and permitted him to laze about the house for years (has never had a job--his mother thinks that, since she can afford it, he should be free of employment until he finishes college, which he'll never do), and now he lives in an apartment she pays for (plus utilities and groceries and car insurance and health insurance and an allowance for spending money) because he's supposedly "in college" at the local community college but he just drops out of his classes and parties and skateboards instead, and she just keeps paying and paying. He's making zero progress toward becoming a functioning adult and it's at least partly her fault--she's making it too easy and comfortable for him, so why should he change? That's what happens when you fund a malfunctioning child past 18: you become part of the problem instead of part of the solution. After 18, only PCs in college full-time get financial help--period. Let the difficult children sink and hit bottom--it's the only way they'll have a fighting chance of pulling out of it. [/QUOTE]
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