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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 422840" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>S'ok, hon, she was replying to Malika. But it's a good point.</p><p></p><p>Malika, on th subject of humour, you said </p><p></p><p>It's the sudden change in expectation that often triggers the smile. But to be able to HAVE that expectation, with some jokes, you need a certain level of social understanding. That is why analysing your child's response to humour can be a strong signpost either for or against Asperger's or autism. As I said before - puns, slapstick and obvious visual humour is generally understood and enjoyed by very young or socially immature kids. But the more complex joke that requires some level of human understanding, is a lot trickier. But they can get very good at faking understanding. Especially if they are bright. As difficult child 3 put it when he was 8, "I'm getting very good at pretending to be normal." He knows he will never feel normal, but he also knows that's OK, a lot of people never feel like they fully fit in, and they do OK.</p><p></p><p>Step, something to tell Jett - scientists have actually analysed how much people laugh at jokes and found that generally the brighter the person and the more they enjoy the joke, the less they laugh out loud. The ones who laugh the loudest tend to have the least understanding of the joke. Not in every case, but overall. There is always the wonderful joke that has you in stitches. But they are rare exceptions.</p><p></p><p>And Asimov noted, people ALWAYS groan at puns!</p><p></p><p>Malika, I also do a lot of work with words. It is difficult when you have a kid underfoot and nobody else around at the moment to occupy him! Your son is still very young, as well, and my kids at that age were challenging, to say the least. easy child 2/difficult child 2 at 4 was desperate to start "big school" and I was quietly fighting a legal battle to get her admitted (she was a fortnight too young) because all the signs indicated she was ready. But before she actually started school, she was following me around the house with a blackboard and chalk wanting to play hangman. And she couldn't spell properly! But thought she could. I got NOTHING done! A very demanding, controlling kid who needed constant stimulation and intellectual challenge. Ate it all up and demanded more. And more. Of course, with hindsight, Asperger's makes sense. She still is not officially diagnosed Asperger's but it's immaterial now she's 24. ADD was diagnosed when she was 10. However, she did brilliantly at school, until she hit the learning brick wall at 10. It was a school which could cope well with people who were different in any way, they spanned a wide range of backgrounds and capabilities. I would suggest, if you have choice, you look around for such a school for your son, for when he is ready to start. It can take time to get to really know what the schools on your list are really like. You need to not only visit and talk to staff, you need to ask locals, talk to people who go there (kids and parents) and keep your ear to the ground. They don't have to have a high academic standard, they just need to be adaptable and up to date with staff learning.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 422840, member: 1991"] S'ok, hon, she was replying to Malika. But it's a good point. Malika, on th subject of humour, you said It's the sudden change in expectation that often triggers the smile. But to be able to HAVE that expectation, with some jokes, you need a certain level of social understanding. That is why analysing your child's response to humour can be a strong signpost either for or against Asperger's or autism. As I said before - puns, slapstick and obvious visual humour is generally understood and enjoyed by very young or socially immature kids. But the more complex joke that requires some level of human understanding, is a lot trickier. But they can get very good at faking understanding. Especially if they are bright. As difficult child 3 put it when he was 8, "I'm getting very good at pretending to be normal." He knows he will never feel normal, but he also knows that's OK, a lot of people never feel like they fully fit in, and they do OK. Step, something to tell Jett - scientists have actually analysed how much people laugh at jokes and found that generally the brighter the person and the more they enjoy the joke, the less they laugh out loud. The ones who laugh the loudest tend to have the least understanding of the joke. Not in every case, but overall. There is always the wonderful joke that has you in stitches. But they are rare exceptions. And Asimov noted, people ALWAYS groan at puns! Malika, I also do a lot of work with words. It is difficult when you have a kid underfoot and nobody else around at the moment to occupy him! Your son is still very young, as well, and my kids at that age were challenging, to say the least. easy child 2/difficult child 2 at 4 was desperate to start "big school" and I was quietly fighting a legal battle to get her admitted (she was a fortnight too young) because all the signs indicated she was ready. But before she actually started school, she was following me around the house with a blackboard and chalk wanting to play hangman. And she couldn't spell properly! But thought she could. I got NOTHING done! A very demanding, controlling kid who needed constant stimulation and intellectual challenge. Ate it all up and demanded more. And more. Of course, with hindsight, Asperger's makes sense. She still is not officially diagnosed Asperger's but it's immaterial now she's 24. ADD was diagnosed when she was 10. However, she did brilliantly at school, until she hit the learning brick wall at 10. It was a school which could cope well with people who were different in any way, they spanned a wide range of backgrounds and capabilities. I would suggest, if you have choice, you look around for such a school for your son, for when he is ready to start. It can take time to get to really know what the schools on your list are really like. You need to not only visit and talk to staff, you need to ask locals, talk to people who go there (kids and parents) and keep your ear to the ground. They don't have to have a high academic standard, they just need to be adaptable and up to date with staff learning. Marg [/QUOTE]
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