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<blockquote data-quote="mandcc96" data-source="post: 147401" data-attributes="member: 5075"><p>I absolutely do appreciate the two good days even though I'd love to say there were more. There is nothing like being woken up to screaming and fighting (especially with a sleeping baby beside me..the only one I really don't want woken up). But someone else suggested too to keep in mind the activity or goal (short term apparently LOL) to help difficult child (and siblings too) to learn self-control and consequences. I found in the last couple of days that if I resort to 13 y.o. antics (acting just like her in a battle) that she responds exactly the way I'm trying to avoid (although I can't say I blame her). But if I don't say a word, and let her do the thinking and the talking, it's like stirring a boiling pot before it boils over. It's still going to boil but it's not going to spill all over the place and create a mess. She has to participate in the thought process as to what I'm really upset with-her for. She can't just say "I didn't do anything". Instead of stating that she's doing something that I don't want her to do (minor, irritating stuff), I ask her if she really thinks that's the best thing to be doing. It's kinda stupid, but for some dumb reason it works. I'm not going to try and analyze why...I'll just take it. Same thing with-short term goals...I'll take it. Maybe with-a little practice she can make it more than a couple of days. We'll see how things go. Thanks for all the support. I hope everyone has peaceful, enjoyable weekends. I'm hoping to get the baby to nap long enough to garden my front yard. -Chastity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mandcc96, post: 147401, member: 5075"] I absolutely do appreciate the two good days even though I'd love to say there were more. There is nothing like being woken up to screaming and fighting (especially with a sleeping baby beside me..the only one I really don't want woken up). But someone else suggested too to keep in mind the activity or goal (short term apparently LOL) to help difficult child (and siblings too) to learn self-control and consequences. I found in the last couple of days that if I resort to 13 y.o. antics (acting just like her in a battle) that she responds exactly the way I'm trying to avoid (although I can't say I blame her). But if I don't say a word, and let her do the thinking and the talking, it's like stirring a boiling pot before it boils over. It's still going to boil but it's not going to spill all over the place and create a mess. She has to participate in the thought process as to what I'm really upset with-her for. She can't just say "I didn't do anything". Instead of stating that she's doing something that I don't want her to do (minor, irritating stuff), I ask her if she really thinks that's the best thing to be doing. It's kinda stupid, but for some dumb reason it works. I'm not going to try and analyze why...I'll just take it. Same thing with-short term goals...I'll take it. Maybe with-a little practice she can make it more than a couple of days. We'll see how things go. Thanks for all the support. I hope everyone has peaceful, enjoyable weekends. I'm hoping to get the baby to nap long enough to garden my front yard. -Chastity [/QUOTE]
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