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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 529166" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Well, you know how it's common parenting to give difficult children rewards fro doing what your difficult child just did? I think in your house, you might want to start rewarding easy child every time he respects a boundary difficult child was able to articulate to keep from melting down. AND if easy child can't respect it, easy child should get some sort of consequence even though it normally would not be a consequence type behavior - like the singing. Turn around is fair play though. If difficult child starts doing something particularly annoying to easy child, and easy child clearly (ie nicely) articulates the boundary. Then difficult child has to respect it.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I've done this before in my home. There's 4 of us and we all have our issues. If any of us is able to articulate a need to keep from blowing, then the others MUST respect that boundary. The kids are so used to it now that all I need to do is offer a gentle reminder. </p><p></p><p>The whole point of this is to calmly identify the problem and <strong>use coherent words</strong> to express a need. Even in a house of only PCs, what you're hearing is quit it, STOP, shut up, Moooooooooooooooooooooooooom he's annoyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyying meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. The above plan trains everyone to use better communication skills.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 529166, member: 11965"] Well, you know how it's common parenting to give difficult children rewards fro doing what your difficult child just did? I think in your house, you might want to start rewarding easy child every time he respects a boundary difficult child was able to articulate to keep from melting down. AND if easy child can't respect it, easy child should get some sort of consequence even though it normally would not be a consequence type behavior - like the singing. Turn around is fair play though. If difficult child starts doing something particularly annoying to easy child, and easy child clearly (ie nicely) articulates the boundary. Then difficult child has to respect it. Yes, I've done this before in my home. There's 4 of us and we all have our issues. If any of us is able to articulate a need to keep from blowing, then the others MUST respect that boundary. The kids are so used to it now that all I need to do is offer a gentle reminder. The whole point of this is to calmly identify the problem and [B]use coherent words[/B] to express a need. Even in a house of only PCs, what you're hearing is quit it, STOP, shut up, Moooooooooooooooooooooooooom he's annoyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyying meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. The above plan trains everyone to use better communication skills. [/QUOTE]
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