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<blockquote data-quote="family mum" data-source="post: 529240" data-attributes="member: 14457"><p>Hi, I'm with InsaneCnd on this one. We all, due to necessity, give a lot more of our time and energy to our difficult child. I know how overwhelmed I feel with the events that circle around my difficult child, I imagine that my 12yr old easy child feels all of that plus she doesn't have the experience and the maturity (haha) that I do. Even if she knows, even if she understands, she won't always be able to do what we may need her to do in order to help prevent triggering a meltdown in difficult child. So often our easy child children do a lot to help the difficult child to get through the day, but it goes unrecognized by us. They need us to: first, acknowledge when their behaviour, compliance, whatever, helps to diffuse a situation, and second, they need our attention sometimes just because they too have to deal with difficult child sibling and they need a break and to know that they are important too.</p><p></p><p>Giving your easy child some one on one time, could be as easy as putting 9 yr old to bed at usual time on a Sat. but have a secret plan with easy child to pop some popcorn and watch a movie of his choice together. This gives him both time with you and a special privilege of staying up later than usual. Don't forget to let him know that you are aware of how much he tries and how much you appreciate his efforts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="family mum, post: 529240, member: 14457"] Hi, I'm with InsaneCnd on this one. We all, due to necessity, give a lot more of our time and energy to our difficult child. I know how overwhelmed I feel with the events that circle around my difficult child, I imagine that my 12yr old easy child feels all of that plus she doesn't have the experience and the maturity (haha) that I do. Even if she knows, even if she understands, she won't always be able to do what we may need her to do in order to help prevent triggering a meltdown in difficult child. So often our easy child children do a lot to help the difficult child to get through the day, but it goes unrecognized by us. They need us to: first, acknowledge when their behaviour, compliance, whatever, helps to diffuse a situation, and second, they need our attention sometimes just because they too have to deal with difficult child sibling and they need a break and to know that they are important too. Giving your easy child some one on one time, could be as easy as putting 9 yr old to bed at usual time on a Sat. but have a secret plan with easy child to pop some popcorn and watch a movie of his choice together. This gives him both time with you and a special privilege of staying up later than usual. Don't forget to let him know that you are aware of how much he tries and how much you appreciate his efforts. [/QUOTE]
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