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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605614" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Kids who are sexual (and often grow into sexually inappropriate men) don't know why they do what they do. It's a compulsion and usually jump started by abuse of themselves that they block out and don't remember. When Psychokid was asked why he did what he did, he also had no answer and when asked if anyone had ever had sex with him, he said he couldn't remember anything happening, but it obviously had. It is very common for sexual acting out on a child to be so traumatic for the child that his subconscious takes it in and leaves him with no memory, but that subconscious still knows it happened, even if Little Johnny doesn't remember and so Little Johnny does what was done to him, which made him so ashamed and so angry. </p><p></p><p>Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is another issue. and not related to sexually acting out. It is a separate problem. Not a fun one either.</p><p></p><p>When we were in counseling for the sexually acting out that Psychokid did to our other kids, the expert on childhood sexual abuse told us that the victim is usually so afraid of the perpetrator that once you find out it happened, you only get a tip of the story, especially the degree and amount of the abuse. On the other hand, like your son, your daughter could be blocking it out partly as well. My two kids who were abused by psychokid for two years do not remember what he did to them. Jumper remembers it happened, but not details. Sonic doesn't remember anything at all, but he was a big part of Psychokid's abusing. </p><p></p><p>We are very lucky that we got good help. Neither of those two children are sexual because of it. Since Psychokid went to court and was charged due to the big age difference, there is a record of what happened to Jumper and Sonic. From time to time, I bring it up in a rather generic way. I want them both to know that this happened in case t hey get flashbacks as adults. I don't want them to wonder if it really happened or if it was a dream or if it was really Dad who did it...before I am gone, I am going to write the story down too. If memories come back, they are often fragmented...this is fertile ground for dissociative identity disorder, although most sexually abused kids don't get that. But that explains how the brain protects the child from the memory of sexual abuse.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are going through this. I had a feeling that this kid was sexually acting out...I am sorry to be right this time. Either get him out of the house or tell husband you are leaving with the girls until he does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605614, member: 1550"] Kids who are sexual (and often grow into sexually inappropriate men) don't know why they do what they do. It's a compulsion and usually jump started by abuse of themselves that they block out and don't remember. When Psychokid was asked why he did what he did, he also had no answer and when asked if anyone had ever had sex with him, he said he couldn't remember anything happening, but it obviously had. It is very common for sexual acting out on a child to be so traumatic for the child that his subconscious takes it in and leaves him with no memory, but that subconscious still knows it happened, even if Little Johnny doesn't remember and so Little Johnny does what was done to him, which made him so ashamed and so angry. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is another issue. and not related to sexually acting out. It is a separate problem. Not a fun one either. When we were in counseling for the sexually acting out that Psychokid did to our other kids, the expert on childhood sexual abuse told us that the victim is usually so afraid of the perpetrator that once you find out it happened, you only get a tip of the story, especially the degree and amount of the abuse. On the other hand, like your son, your daughter could be blocking it out partly as well. My two kids who were abused by psychokid for two years do not remember what he did to them. Jumper remembers it happened, but not details. Sonic doesn't remember anything at all, but he was a big part of Psychokid's abusing. We are very lucky that we got good help. Neither of those two children are sexual because of it. Since Psychokid went to court and was charged due to the big age difference, there is a record of what happened to Jumper and Sonic. From time to time, I bring it up in a rather generic way. I want them both to know that this happened in case t hey get flashbacks as adults. I don't want them to wonder if it really happened or if it was a dream or if it was really Dad who did it...before I am gone, I am going to write the story down too. If memories come back, they are often fragmented...this is fertile ground for dissociative identity disorder, although most sexually abused kids don't get that. But that explains how the brain protects the child from the memory of sexual abuse. I'm sorry you are going through this. I had a feeling that this kid was sexually acting out...I am sorry to be right this time. Either get him out of the house or tell husband you are leaving with the girls until he does. [/QUOTE]
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