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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 543483" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>This is SO tough. Same situation here... except almost-easy child is younger.</p><p>We try to balance three things:</p><p>- the medically necessary adjustments to our home for difficult child (very regular routine, specifics of diet, etc.)</p><p>- the wear-and-tear of being the sibling to a difficult child</p><p>- the need for almost-easy child to still be her own person</p><p></p><p>There is no option on the first list - and almost-easy child fits in. She can't have friends over because of difficult child's schedule, for example. So we focus on the other two.</p><p></p><p>We try to give almost-easy child some "no difficult child around" time at least once a week - she will go with either parent off to do something, or either parent will take difficult child off to do something and give her space. We also intervene when difficult child gets TOO mean.</p><p></p><p>And then... we find ways to focus on HER interests. She can't have friends in - but she can go to their houses, and/or meet them "out" (pool or whatever). Lessons, events, etc. of HER interest, may mean that one parent goes rather than going as a family, but we still try to support these.</p><p></p><p>As both are now in HS, ours are a bit more independent than a 10yo would be, but... we've been doing this for 10 years now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 543483, member: 11791"] This is SO tough. Same situation here... except almost-easy child is younger. We try to balance three things: - the medically necessary adjustments to our home for difficult child (very regular routine, specifics of diet, etc.) - the wear-and-tear of being the sibling to a difficult child - the need for almost-easy child to still be her own person There is no option on the first list - and almost-easy child fits in. She can't have friends over because of difficult child's schedule, for example. So we focus on the other two. We try to give almost-easy child some "no difficult child around" time at least once a week - she will go with either parent off to do something, or either parent will take difficult child off to do something and give her space. We also intervene when difficult child gets TOO mean. And then... we find ways to focus on HER interests. She can't have friends in - but she can go to their houses, and/or meet them "out" (pool or whatever). Lessons, events, etc. of HER interest, may mean that one parent goes rather than going as a family, but we still try to support these. As both are now in HS, ours are a bit more independent than a 10yo would be, but... we've been doing this for 10 years now. [/QUOTE]
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