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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 419522" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>As he is not in your home overnight now, you can most likely refuse to allow him to enter/spend another night with-o any legal problems. If you let him spend even ONE night in your home you may be faced with having to legally evict him. If he doesn't know his rights he may not know that you would have to evict him via the courts, but I wouldn't run that risk by letting him come back into the home.</p><p> </p><p>If at ALL possible, do NOT confront him in a private place. Better he lose it and go off in a rage in a public place where you might be embarrasseed but there will be people around to call the police/911 if you need it than to have him fly into a rage at home where he can hurt you and keep you from being able to call for help. (by the way, it is a felony in most places to refuse to allow someone to call 911. WHether they take the phones, take them out of your hand, or physically keep you away from the phone it is considered domestic violence and usually felony domestic violence - or felony assault if it isn't a family/household member.)</p><p> </p><p>rls is right about the confrontation. And about doing it all at once rather than in increments. Until he hits bottom and sees that he cannot have anything good in his life as long as he is using/dealing, treatment/rehab won't be successful. For many addicts it takes spending some time in jail with family who will not get you out/accept your calls before they will make any changes.</p><p> </p><p>It may actually be safest for YOU if you tell him over the phone that you own't pick him up or allow him to live in your home. Or that he can come home if he agrees to X conditions, and if he doesn't you own't pick him up at the airport. He isn't going to comply with the agreement even if he signs a rental agreement saying all the conditions and that if he violates any of them he iwll be immediately kicked out. Mostly because he doesn't believe you will follow through, so why should he comply? Then you MUST follow through and change the locks and not let him in or you will be in serious trouble with a young man who believes he can do what he wants to you with-o repercussions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 419522, member: 1233"] As he is not in your home overnight now, you can most likely refuse to allow him to enter/spend another night with-o any legal problems. If you let him spend even ONE night in your home you may be faced with having to legally evict him. If he doesn't know his rights he may not know that you would have to evict him via the courts, but I wouldn't run that risk by letting him come back into the home. If at ALL possible, do NOT confront him in a private place. Better he lose it and go off in a rage in a public place where you might be embarrasseed but there will be people around to call the police/911 if you need it than to have him fly into a rage at home where he can hurt you and keep you from being able to call for help. (by the way, it is a felony in most places to refuse to allow someone to call 911. WHether they take the phones, take them out of your hand, or physically keep you away from the phone it is considered domestic violence and usually felony domestic violence - or felony assault if it isn't a family/household member.) rls is right about the confrontation. And about doing it all at once rather than in increments. Until he hits bottom and sees that he cannot have anything good in his life as long as he is using/dealing, treatment/rehab won't be successful. For many addicts it takes spending some time in jail with family who will not get you out/accept your calls before they will make any changes. It may actually be safest for YOU if you tell him over the phone that you own't pick him up or allow him to live in your home. Or that he can come home if he agrees to X conditions, and if he doesn't you own't pick him up at the airport. He isn't going to comply with the agreement even if he signs a rental agreement saying all the conditions and that if he violates any of them he iwll be immediately kicked out. Mostly because he doesn't believe you will follow through, so why should he comply? Then you MUST follow through and change the locks and not let him in or you will be in serious trouble with a young man who believes he can do what he wants to you with-o repercussions. [/QUOTE]
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