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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 453877" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>KSM, I just went back and re-read your first post.</p><p></p><p>Something jumped out at me - while Strattera may or may not be a part of the problem, she is obviously on it because there were problems before. And what you described in terms of difficulty complying with what seem to us to be simple tasks - I think she has problems multi-tasking. We had this big time with difficult child 1. He's grown up learning to find his own ways of coping, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) actually cane become a coping skill. He takes Zoloft now, to help keep his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) under control. We tried to cut his Zoloft back a few years ago and we watched him getting ready to go out. He was ready a little early, so he checked to make sure he had his wallet and car keys. Then he checked that he had locked the doors and windows. By this point he wasn't sure if he had his wallet and keys, so he checked them again. Yes. But had he locked up the house? Let's check. And so on, round and round, over and over, until it was time to go. As he drove down the road it was preying on his mind - had he locked up the house?</p><p></p><p>When difficult child 1 was little, we had to give him instructions in writing, or one step at a time. An example - we were having dinner with friends and difficult child 1 asked to go to the toilet. The host said, "It's through that door, down the hall to your right, third door on the left."</p><p>difficult child 1 went to the door and paused. "Which way again?"</p><p>He headed that direction and came back. "I forgot which door number."</p><p>So we led him there by the hand. Once he had walked the path, he was fine. He took himself to the toilet later that evening with no problems.</p><p></p><p>Again we noticed this when he was packing for camp. When he had a written list of what to take, he was fine. But he had to stick to that list exactly, or he got upset. </p><p></p><p>We got a small blackboard and used it to give difficult child 1 his instructions. I have learned to leave notes. Even with difficult child 3 now, who has always been much better than his brother at multi-tasking, I leave notes. "While I'm out, work on your Chemistry sheets. Then for lunch re-heat the lasagne for 3 minutes on Medium. After lunch get back to Chemistry. When you finish that, begin on Physics. After 3.30 pm, change the food and water in the henhouse. Any phone calls - write down who rang and what number to call them back on."</p><p></p><p>A problem we found with difficult child 1 especially, was his problem with making choices. We saw this when he had an essay to write, school notes to take or even just decide what to eat. In making choice A, he was immediately excluding all other choices. And especially when this related to information, that meant he had to make a value judgement on the value of Choice A over other choices. He was often paralysed by indecision and the responsibility of having to choose.</p><p></p><p>This responds fastest to support, and slowest to criticism. It is made worse by anxiety, and anything you do (no matter how reasonable in your eyes) that heightens their anxiety, makes the problem worse.</p><p></p><p>Does this seem to fit?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 453877, member: 1991"] KSM, I just went back and re-read your first post. Something jumped out at me - while Strattera may or may not be a part of the problem, she is obviously on it because there were problems before. And what you described in terms of difficulty complying with what seem to us to be simple tasks - I think she has problems multi-tasking. We had this big time with difficult child 1. He's grown up learning to find his own ways of coping, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) actually cane become a coping skill. He takes Zoloft now, to help keep his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) under control. We tried to cut his Zoloft back a few years ago and we watched him getting ready to go out. He was ready a little early, so he checked to make sure he had his wallet and car keys. Then he checked that he had locked the doors and windows. By this point he wasn't sure if he had his wallet and keys, so he checked them again. Yes. But had he locked up the house? Let's check. And so on, round and round, over and over, until it was time to go. As he drove down the road it was preying on his mind - had he locked up the house? When difficult child 1 was little, we had to give him instructions in writing, or one step at a time. An example - we were having dinner with friends and difficult child 1 asked to go to the toilet. The host said, "It's through that door, down the hall to your right, third door on the left." difficult child 1 went to the door and paused. "Which way again?" He headed that direction and came back. "I forgot which door number." So we led him there by the hand. Once he had walked the path, he was fine. He took himself to the toilet later that evening with no problems. Again we noticed this when he was packing for camp. When he had a written list of what to take, he was fine. But he had to stick to that list exactly, or he got upset. We got a small blackboard and used it to give difficult child 1 his instructions. I have learned to leave notes. Even with difficult child 3 now, who has always been much better than his brother at multi-tasking, I leave notes. "While I'm out, work on your Chemistry sheets. Then for lunch re-heat the lasagne for 3 minutes on Medium. After lunch get back to Chemistry. When you finish that, begin on Physics. After 3.30 pm, change the food and water in the henhouse. Any phone calls - write down who rang and what number to call them back on." A problem we found with difficult child 1 especially, was his problem with making choices. We saw this when he had an essay to write, school notes to take or even just decide what to eat. In making choice A, he was immediately excluding all other choices. And especially when this related to information, that meant he had to make a value judgement on the value of Choice A over other choices. He was often paralysed by indecision and the responsibility of having to choose. This responds fastest to support, and slowest to criticism. It is made worse by anxiety, and anything you do (no matter how reasonable in your eyes) that heightens their anxiety, makes the problem worse. Does this seem to fit? Marg [/QUOTE]
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