easy child has continued to struggle with her depression. She sleeps a lot and rarely communicates with anyone. She skips meals and is often hermit like. We rarely see a smile on her face. She doesn't seem to get excited about anything. We have switched her Fluoxetene to the generic of Zoloft and hope to see some improvement.
Meanwhile she is failing two classes. We found out today if she does fail the classes her out of district transfer will be revoked. If you had told me this a week ago I would have thought it a good thing. It would be a natural consequence.
Then yesterday we found out she has again been the victim of some nasty rumors. Her supposed boyfriend (I think easy child is finally seeing her for who she is) has been the one making up the lies. easy child is really struggling with this as she doesn't understand why a "friend" would do this. husband said easy child shared a lot with him yesterday and was crying.
husband told her she needs to stand up for herself and letting her grades go down isn't helping. He told her she needs to hang out with the couple of kids she has that seem to truly care about her. She told husband that tomorrow she plans on standing up to her friend. I'm not sure exactly what that means. It's good she has one good friend (who is a boy but just a friend) that is going to be with her when she does this.
I feel torn about the possibility of the transfer being revoked. It's a good life lesson yet she is so depressed and being away from the few friends she has left may really send her into a downward spiral. At the same time we do not want her thinking it is o.k. to use her depression as an excuse for not doing homework.
Hopefully the threat of having her transfer revoked will help her to start doing her work. She says she has been doing more of it lately.
I sure wish I knew the right way to handle this. Do we advocate for school to give her another chance (I'm not sure there is enough time for her to bring her grades up this quarter stil)? Let her learn the hard way? I have been losing so much sleep lately worrying about her.
Meanwhile she is failing two classes. We found out today if she does fail the classes her out of district transfer will be revoked. If you had told me this a week ago I would have thought it a good thing. It would be a natural consequence.
Then yesterday we found out she has again been the victim of some nasty rumors. Her supposed boyfriend (I think easy child is finally seeing her for who she is) has been the one making up the lies. easy child is really struggling with this as she doesn't understand why a "friend" would do this. husband said easy child shared a lot with him yesterday and was crying.
husband told her she needs to stand up for herself and letting her grades go down isn't helping. He told her she needs to hang out with the couple of kids she has that seem to truly care about her. She told husband that tomorrow she plans on standing up to her friend. I'm not sure exactly what that means. It's good she has one good friend (who is a boy but just a friend) that is going to be with her when she does this.
I feel torn about the possibility of the transfer being revoked. It's a good life lesson yet she is so depressed and being away from the few friends she has left may really send her into a downward spiral. At the same time we do not want her thinking it is o.k. to use her depression as an excuse for not doing homework.
Hopefully the threat of having her transfer revoked will help her to start doing her work. She says she has been doing more of it lately.
I sure wish I knew the right way to handle this. Do we advocate for school to give her another chance (I'm not sure there is enough time for her to bring her grades up this quarter stil)? Let her learn the hard way? I have been losing so much sleep lately worrying about her.