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Since it's come up a lot lately, were you ever bullied in school?
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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 432953" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I wasn't bullied in grade school because if anybody was mean to me I kicked the snot out of them - I went to a one room country school and we all knew each other all of our lives and our parents knew each other well and I don't remember anybody being bullied. </p><p> </p><p> But when I got to high school it was a whole different group of kids. I went from 20 kids in the whole grade school to 103 kids in my high school class. I was a little shy and had big boobs and all of the kids called me "Boobs" and it was devastating. Probably one of the reasons I had breast reduction surgery 40 years later. A lot of those people I would not walk across the street to pee on them if they were on fire. </p><p> </p><p>However, I have gone to my class reunions lately (just had number 45 last year). What I've found out is that almost everybody (even the ones we thought were the popular kids)remembers high school as being he!! We have all grown up and become different people. I'm not really willing to forget but I guess at this point I can forgive. LIfe is too short to hold a grudge against people who don't matter to me anyway.</p><p> </p><p>I think in some ways things are better because most schools are at least trying to recognize the problem. If I or my parents were to go to the administration with that problem now, they would have to at least acknowledge the complaint. Back then I would have been told that sticks and stones might break my bones but words could never hurt me and I should suck it up and ignore it. Some of the teachers would even have probably thought it was funny. But, having taught myself for over 30 years I realize what a hard problem it is to deal with. First, kids are sneaky and they are usually smart enough not to bully somebody if they know there is a teacher around. Second, there are some kids who are super sensitive and whiny who do need to suck it up and learn to deal with the world. Third, there are those kids who try to play the system and claim they are being bullied to get somebody else in trouble. Plus, reporting the bullying can lead to its getting worse instead of better as the perpetrators try to get even after having been turned in. And with all of the electronic systems at their command to bully others, it is often hard to get a handle on things. There are teachers and school systems who ignore the problem and they need to be called on the carpet but in most cases people are doing the best they can. They want to help kids who are being bullied but they are often required to find illusive proof or face a lawsuit. Counselors try to help but they are stretched too thin to really be very effective. I think we still have a problem. Methods of bullying have probably changed over the years and we have tried to adapt our reactions to it but it is still a problem.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 432953, member: 135"] I wasn't bullied in grade school because if anybody was mean to me I kicked the snot out of them - I went to a one room country school and we all knew each other all of our lives and our parents knew each other well and I don't remember anybody being bullied. But when I got to high school it was a whole different group of kids. I went from 20 kids in the whole grade school to 103 kids in my high school class. I was a little shy and had big boobs and all of the kids called me "Boobs" and it was devastating. Probably one of the reasons I had breast reduction surgery 40 years later. A lot of those people I would not walk across the street to pee on them if they were on fire. However, I have gone to my class reunions lately (just had number 45 last year). What I've found out is that almost everybody (even the ones we thought were the popular kids)remembers high school as being he!! We have all grown up and become different people. I'm not really willing to forget but I guess at this point I can forgive. LIfe is too short to hold a grudge against people who don't matter to me anyway. I think in some ways things are better because most schools are at least trying to recognize the problem. If I or my parents were to go to the administration with that problem now, they would have to at least acknowledge the complaint. Back then I would have been told that sticks and stones might break my bones but words could never hurt me and I should suck it up and ignore it. Some of the teachers would even have probably thought it was funny. But, having taught myself for over 30 years I realize what a hard problem it is to deal with. First, kids are sneaky and they are usually smart enough not to bully somebody if they know there is a teacher around. Second, there are some kids who are super sensitive and whiny who do need to suck it up and learn to deal with the world. Third, there are those kids who try to play the system and claim they are being bullied to get somebody else in trouble. Plus, reporting the bullying can lead to its getting worse instead of better as the perpetrators try to get even after having been turned in. And with all of the electronic systems at their command to bully others, it is often hard to get a handle on things. There are teachers and school systems who ignore the problem and they need to be called on the carpet but in most cases people are doing the best they can. They want to help kids who are being bullied but they are often required to find illusive proof or face a lawsuit. Counselors try to help but they are stretched too thin to really be very effective. I think we still have a problem. Methods of bullying have probably changed over the years and we have tried to adapt our reactions to it but it is still a problem. [/QUOTE]
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