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Since it's come up a lot lately, were you ever bullied in school?
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 432958" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>MWM, </p><p> </p><p>I didn't have any friends in elementary school. I didn't have any in Middle school. I did manage to make a few friends in Jr. High, but started running track and field, cross country and sports was a godsend and I was very good at them. My parents kept us so busy 25-8 that we didn't have time to think about much, I just know that being adopted, not fitting in at school, not fitting in in our neighborhood, and then being called names, being picked on and always being put down by high school bullies, cliques and girls like HS reunion girl who did the whisper/giggle, and rumor I was pregnant when I remained a virgin, and always made fun of my clothes because they were from Kmart and never the 'mall', and just on and on relentlessly over every single little thing? Made my life very difficult. Trying to go to a place you HATE every day for nearly 12 years makes it MORE difficult to come home and be a happy child and add in hormones and lifes general struggles? And I just don't remember 11 years as being fun at all. I remember thinking if there was anything I could do to get out early? I would - so I took college prep classes, graduated at 16, and went into O.W.E, and got out at noon in 12th grade, but by then? I finally did fit in, was into boxing with my Dad - and found out who started the pregnancy rumors and when I did? It made the entire cafeteria go dead silent when I jacked her up against the wall and made her tell EVERYONE ----that it was impossible for a virgin to be pregnant and she was a liar. After that? Mostly everyone left me alone. I wasn't a jock - I wasn't a burn out - I was still nice to everyone and the nicest compliment I ever got was a few years out of HS - a girl I barely knew stopped me and my Mom while out shopping and asked me how I was and told me that if it hadn't been for me being nice to her in school she would have committed suicide - but that I was nice to everyone. It blew me away. So see? You never know HOW your behavior affects someones life - and I spent a lot of time in thearpy talking about how these people in school affected MY life and MY decisions and how they ground me into the dirt and how they made me feel. Even when I had this opportunity recently? I wasn't angry - I was just sad for her - because - twenty five years later she HAD an opportunity to say "I'm so sorry I didn't realize that's how I made you feel or I'm sorry I was that way as a teen, or I apologize for being like that but I have changed and nothing - not a word. Very sad - and no doubt she's raised a new generation of gossip girl in her own daughter - because it didn't affect her in the least when I mentioned her children and how they may feel. Just very sad. She said she grew up - and maybe physically - but not emotionally, not spiritually - and certainly not with compassion. That's why I said I'm glad she THOUGHT she grew up. So I'm not angry - I feel sorry for her. Shallow people have shallow minds. I have no regrets in my life - every thing you may percieve in my life as an obstacle? I see as a lesson in humility. And so it goes. </p><p> </p><p>I know one thing - I'd rather be an underdogs champion than a bully and not know it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 432958, member: 4964"] MWM, I didn't have any friends in elementary school. I didn't have any in Middle school. I did manage to make a few friends in Jr. High, but started running track and field, cross country and sports was a godsend and I was very good at them. My parents kept us so busy 25-8 that we didn't have time to think about much, I just know that being adopted, not fitting in at school, not fitting in in our neighborhood, and then being called names, being picked on and always being put down by high school bullies, cliques and girls like HS reunion girl who did the whisper/giggle, and rumor I was pregnant when I remained a virgin, and always made fun of my clothes because they were from Kmart and never the 'mall', and just on and on relentlessly over every single little thing? Made my life very difficult. Trying to go to a place you HATE every day for nearly 12 years makes it MORE difficult to come home and be a happy child and add in hormones and lifes general struggles? And I just don't remember 11 years as being fun at all. I remember thinking if there was anything I could do to get out early? I would - so I took college prep classes, graduated at 16, and went into O.W.E, and got out at noon in 12th grade, but by then? I finally did fit in, was into boxing with my Dad - and found out who started the pregnancy rumors and when I did? It made the entire cafeteria go dead silent when I jacked her up against the wall and made her tell EVERYONE ----that it was impossible for a virgin to be pregnant and she was a liar. After that? Mostly everyone left me alone. I wasn't a jock - I wasn't a burn out - I was still nice to everyone and the nicest compliment I ever got was a few years out of HS - a girl I barely knew stopped me and my Mom while out shopping and asked me how I was and told me that if it hadn't been for me being nice to her in school she would have committed suicide - but that I was nice to everyone. It blew me away. So see? You never know HOW your behavior affects someones life - and I spent a lot of time in thearpy talking about how these people in school affected MY life and MY decisions and how they ground me into the dirt and how they made me feel. Even when I had this opportunity recently? I wasn't angry - I was just sad for her - because - twenty five years later she HAD an opportunity to say "I'm so sorry I didn't realize that's how I made you feel or I'm sorry I was that way as a teen, or I apologize for being like that but I have changed and nothing - not a word. Very sad - and no doubt she's raised a new generation of gossip girl in her own daughter - because it didn't affect her in the least when I mentioned her children and how they may feel. Just very sad. She said she grew up - and maybe physically - but not emotionally, not spiritually - and certainly not with compassion. That's why I said I'm glad she THOUGHT she grew up. So I'm not angry - I feel sorry for her. Shallow people have shallow minds. I have no regrets in my life - every thing you may percieve in my life as an obstacle? I see as a lesson in humility. And so it goes. I know one thing - I'd rather be an underdogs champion than a bully and not know it. [/QUOTE]
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