I don't. I feel like I let him get away with way too much and ignored the signs that there would be real trouble. Since h e was popular and very bright, I refused to focus on the other part of him that was not so loveable. 36 was only spanked once and that was when he got a head start and ran ahead of me and into a busy street. I was so scared that I grabbed him and spanked his diapered butt (he was two). Other than that, if anything, I was in denial that things were that bad. Do you blame yourself for the way your child turned out? I really don't. From what I can look back and see, he was born the way he is and I'm a big believer in genetics first. He has a lot to overcome in the genetics department. I do think that if I had demanded more respect and responsibility from him earlier, maybe he would have better control now, but I have no way of knowing that. I'm not sure anyone is even interested in discussing this, but I will throw it out there and see.