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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 464228" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I'm so sorry that your family is going through with this. I'm very very sorry that your son became physical with you. </p><p></p><p>To answer the question as to if perhaps you should have him arrested? It is up to you what you can handle, but if it were me? I'd have him picked up and charged. My thinking is this: he attacked you. If this was a stranger who did this, would you have that stranger arrested? Yes. He is 17 which helps that perhaps his record won't have to stick with him into adulthood. Yet even if it would follow him, he brought it on himself. He physically assaulted his own mother, and it sounds quite aggressively. He then trashed YOUR home. He sounds as though he was on quite a tear. You state he smokes pot nightly, well for most pot won't lead to aggression but other drugs can and often do. i would be having him drug tested because it sounds as though it is quite possible he is using more than pot. Next thought, your son needs intense help. It is beyond a mother being able to fix her baby boy. been there done that, as have many here. Sometimes it gets to a point in parenting where the child no longer allows themselves to be parented, and it sure sounds like your son passed that stage long ago. He may just get some true help if he is charged and held accountable. You are also well within your right to decide it is unsafe for him to live in the home with you. I know that is hard for all parents who get to a place such as this, but as difficult as it is, your son needs more help than love and parenting can give him. It sounds time to love him the tough way, the way that might help him before he does something even more stupid than this already criminal behavior he's exhibiting now. I am a firm believer that sometimes it takes that tough kind of love from a parent. It will hurt you far more than it will hurt him, trust me. He is but a year or less anyhow from being able to live independently. He is no longer a little child and facing the punishment for his actions before he hits that legal adult milestone on his 18th birthday may just be the greatest gift of love and caring and parenting you ever give him. The key, from the perspective of someone who did have their difficult child son removed from the home for a period of time, is often in deciding that it can't hurt you any more to have him facing his consequences than the hurt of living with your son day to day with this type of behavior. </p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide, I hope it leads to a healthier path for your difficult child as well as for you. (((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 464228, member: 4264"] I'm so sorry that your family is going through with this. I'm very very sorry that your son became physical with you. To answer the question as to if perhaps you should have him arrested? It is up to you what you can handle, but if it were me? I'd have him picked up and charged. My thinking is this: he attacked you. If this was a stranger who did this, would you have that stranger arrested? Yes. He is 17 which helps that perhaps his record won't have to stick with him into adulthood. Yet even if it would follow him, he brought it on himself. He physically assaulted his own mother, and it sounds quite aggressively. He then trashed YOUR home. He sounds as though he was on quite a tear. You state he smokes pot nightly, well for most pot won't lead to aggression but other drugs can and often do. i would be having him drug tested because it sounds as though it is quite possible he is using more than pot. Next thought, your son needs intense help. It is beyond a mother being able to fix her baby boy. been there done that, as have many here. Sometimes it gets to a point in parenting where the child no longer allows themselves to be parented, and it sure sounds like your son passed that stage long ago. He may just get some true help if he is charged and held accountable. You are also well within your right to decide it is unsafe for him to live in the home with you. I know that is hard for all parents who get to a place such as this, but as difficult as it is, your son needs more help than love and parenting can give him. It sounds time to love him the tough way, the way that might help him before he does something even more stupid than this already criminal behavior he's exhibiting now. I am a firm believer that sometimes it takes that tough kind of love from a parent. It will hurt you far more than it will hurt him, trust me. He is but a year or less anyhow from being able to live independently. He is no longer a little child and facing the punishment for his actions before he hits that legal adult milestone on his 18th birthday may just be the greatest gift of love and caring and parenting you ever give him. The key, from the perspective of someone who did have their difficult child son removed from the home for a period of time, is often in deciding that it can't hurt you any more to have him facing his consequences than the hurt of living with your son day to day with this type of behavior. Whatever you decide, I hope it leads to a healthier path for your difficult child as well as for you. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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