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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 194404" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Thanks for the advice. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">When my mom was here in July, we set up an account in her name and mine, we had an attorney file the papers for poa for both me and my CT sister (near me) and we began filling out paperwork to have mom move here and find her a home as well as filing Title 19 paperwork with the state for aid for the cost of a home. My mom is not wealthy. All she has is about $4000 cash and her monthly income of $1200 which is a combo of SS and pension payments. My PA sister isn't going to be in a situation to bilk her out of much money except to simple extend her own income by about $600/month. Not much, but still...when you add in the money we're all sending her...</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I will acquire a copy of the poa papers and go over it with my local sister. She's smart and reasonable, albeit, cannot seem to be bothered to make any waves in regards to custody of my mom or anything. At this point, I think she she content to let PA sister do it all (which in effect means, take great advantage over the situation).</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">My WV sister feels that my PA sister will not really look into a home for mom because, quite frankly, PA sister will have an income loss once mom no longer lives with her. We're all upset about it, yet I seem to be the only one up in arms. I need a reality check to see if I'm up in arms over something that isn't that serious. To me, this is serious and it's not just about the financial aspect. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">My WV sister learned that my PA sister pinches my mom - hard enough to leave bruises. And my easy child told me that when she was visiting her, that PA sister also pinched her a lot - she thinks she's being cute! There is so much more, and many reasons, to take my mom away from my sister, that I can't write it all here.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I need some backing by my siblings. My brother is very happy to not be bothered with the day to day and just send his monthly check. For me, it's not that easy. I don't have room in my own home to have mom live with me so I really need to have my two other sisters on board with me. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I am sending an email to my PA sister tomorrow and simply telling her that I am contacting the bank for copies of all the records, that I am not paying her any more money for June, and that I need assurance from her that she is seeking a home for my mom, with a deadline date we can count on. I am also going to inform her of the details surrounding mom's court settlement as well. She needs to know that at least one of us is not going to roll over on this one. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Thanks for the advice, adrianne. At least I don't feel like I'm crazy.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 194404, member: 2211"] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]Thanks for the advice. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]When my mom was here in July, we set up an account in her name and mine, we had an attorney file the papers for poa for both me and my CT sister (near me) and we began filling out paperwork to have mom move here and find her a home as well as filing Title 19 paperwork with the state for aid for the cost of a home. My mom is not wealthy. All she has is about $4000 cash and her monthly income of $1200 which is a combo of SS and pension payments. My PA sister isn't going to be in a situation to bilk her out of much money except to simple extend her own income by about $600/month. Not much, but still...when you add in the money we're all sending her...[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]I will acquire a copy of the poa papers and go over it with my local sister. She's smart and reasonable, albeit, cannot seem to be bothered to make any waves in regards to custody of my mom or anything. At this point, I think she she content to let PA sister do it all (which in effect means, take great advantage over the situation).[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]My WV sister feels that my PA sister will not really look into a home for mom because, quite frankly, PA sister will have an income loss once mom no longer lives with her. We're all upset about it, yet I seem to be the only one up in arms. I need a reality check to see if I'm up in arms over something that isn't that serious. To me, this is serious and it's not just about the financial aspect. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]My WV sister learned that my PA sister pinches my mom - hard enough to leave bruises. And my easy child told me that when she was visiting her, that PA sister also pinched her a lot - she thinks she's being cute! There is so much more, and many reasons, to take my mom away from my sister, that I can't write it all here.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]I need some backing by my siblings. My brother is very happy to not be bothered with the day to day and just send his monthly check. For me, it's not that easy. I don't have room in my own home to have mom live with me so I really need to have my two other sisters on board with me. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]I am sending an email to my PA sister tomorrow and simply telling her that I am contacting the bank for copies of all the records, that I am not paying her any more money for June, and that I need assurance from her that she is seeking a home for my mom, with a deadline date we can count on. I am also going to inform her of the details surrounding mom's court settlement as well. She needs to know that at least one of us is not going to roll over on this one. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=4][COLOR=darkslateblue]Thanks for the advice, adrianne. At least I don't feel like I'm crazy.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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