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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 440138" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I had not been able to get up to my Moms for years....either due to work or financial - but I have never said or "sad" to my Mom - woe is me. When my Mom 'surprised" us with a visit - "Oh BOY!!!" it was a surprise. lol. All those things that you kinda 'foo foo" in conversations and never EVER mention or skim over in conversations?" Well the cat was out of the bag after she walked in the door so she got the whole $5.00 tour of the house, and saw the car(SUV) and was just polite about it all - but my conversation with her about her obvious but closed mouthed opinions -UM - Think Meeting my blunt persona in person without the ability to hold it back at all.....that's my Mom...lol. came in and did her best to detach from MY life. Which is what it is after selling the farm and doing what I had to do to get away from x and getting Dude well, having DF go down the tubes due to his broken back. So it is what it is and you just move on and deal. </p><p></p><p>Anyway I told her I'm happy mostly and it's okay - I don't WANT help, I wouldn't TAKE help. I'll earn it - I'll work 3 jobs -mow lawns, pick up aluminum cans on the road side - but I don't want a thing. She's tried, it didn't work - I sent it back. Then I got a chance to go to her home and I went to work on it. NOW? Now I don't feel bad about how her house is. No drafts, no mold, new furnace, insulation....clean ducts, but while all this work was going on? My sister sat doing NOTHING. Never even came to visit, never even made the attempt to come see me OR my Mom. Two months later when it began to snow buckets? She NEVER EVER came to my Moms to see if there was some shoveling of the walk that could be done - (I had already arranged for her to have a guy do it) but not once this year did she even call to say - need help?) and two years ago? My Mom DID have hip surgery and NOT ONE TIME during the winter did my sister even offer to come help her with her stockings for circulation - yet when she wrecked her car recently she asked ME to put on her socks...and I said to her what she told my Mom over the phone "Ewwwwwww I don't touch feet - they're gross" Everyone in the hospital room looked at me like I was cold and uncaring, and I got up, I put them on, and I looked her dead in the eye and I said "Well isn't that what you're supposed to say to people when they ask you to change their compression stockings after they've wiped your butt for years and changed your diapers?" and that look you get (raised eyebrow) with complete anger came over me like a tsunami.....and she KNEW EXACTLY what I meant...and said "Well it's okay if you don't want to...and I said "It's not big deal - we're family - family helps..because the only OTHER way you can do this - is to grab a cane,,,,,push the sock off with the cane ---and struggle for nearly an hour to try to get it back on with a set of those tongs you use to reach things off the floor....isnt' that right Mom?" Our Mom said NOTHING. Belive me I'm loving until you mess with my family - and then? The grave would look like a Carribean hot spot. So it's not like she didn't get it - she's doing exactly what she wants and knows it. And my nice? WOW.......there's a girl that is in my humble opinion by comparison trying as hard as she might but going to fail miserably to get he merit badge in Ice Princess. </p><p></p><p>Sad thing about wearing a crown of ice cubes, when you choose to shut your immediate family out - and your Aunt and Nana are professional detachment experts? The only one that is going to loose out in that litlte charade? Is you. I've already HAD to be like that to survive, not by choice - and it's not a good place to be. I'm basically ambivalent about it. I do know that I've been SICK TO HERE with her fakeness for years but have never said a word for fear it would cause a huge family rift. Now that she's 18 and an adult? I am free to speak my peace if I choose about her treatment of my Mother and if provoked now? Maybe just one last time? I'll take my entire ensemble out of deep freeze and show little miss cool what a complete Artic Blast is all about - because I've been saving up this cold front for about six years. And while I'm at it? I just may frost over my sisters assets too. And when that's done? Old Man Winter wants to blow in a Nor'Easter of his own because he said he's NEVER seen two women treat their Mother like these two EVER and I just may step off our "NO family" rule this one time and let him at 'em. DF has kept his peace and opinions to himself for 12 years. Very admirable. At least it would be 2 less for Holiday dinners that would probably say "Did you buy this with FOODSTAMPS? If you did we can't eat it - we're going to Wendys." </p><p></p><p>I really need to get off this subject....few things get under my skin - and I guess I really DO care about her and my niece but I just DO NOT Understand HOW you can have such a wonderful Mom/Grandmother and be given all the opportunities like they have been given and go OUT OF YOUR WAY to be so ugly. My son thinks his Nana hates him ---and rightfully so - he hasn't done much to make her proud, but he's NEVER done or said ANYTHING like this. (insert scream) I guess if this were an experiment? Maybe my test subject will pull his head out of his **** and BE a decent person finally and take the opportunity to show her he's worthy. (Shrug....exhale) one can hope....He really does love her and would do anything for her if he were there? She would never have to rake, plow or mow again. I know that much. He just gets over zealous.....and does dumb stuff like trims holes in her bushes.....lol....(when he was four) </p><p></p><p>Okay off soapbox again. Thanks for the vent - I swear when I woke up this morning I was surrounded by puppies and still thinking about this I felt like my heart was in knots....makes me so bloody angry. </p><p></p><p>.........I'm much better now. (like Marty Feldman in that movie).........hahaha. Ahem.......going to get dressed now......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 440138, member: 4964"] I had not been able to get up to my Moms for years....either due to work or financial - but I have never said or "sad" to my Mom - woe is me. When my Mom 'surprised" us with a visit - "Oh BOY!!!" it was a surprise. lol. All those things that you kinda 'foo foo" in conversations and never EVER mention or skim over in conversations?" Well the cat was out of the bag after she walked in the door so she got the whole $5.00 tour of the house, and saw the car(SUV) and was just polite about it all - but my conversation with her about her obvious but closed mouthed opinions -UM - Think Meeting my blunt persona in person without the ability to hold it back at all.....that's my Mom...lol. came in and did her best to detach from MY life. Which is what it is after selling the farm and doing what I had to do to get away from x and getting Dude well, having DF go down the tubes due to his broken back. So it is what it is and you just move on and deal. Anyway I told her I'm happy mostly and it's okay - I don't WANT help, I wouldn't TAKE help. I'll earn it - I'll work 3 jobs -mow lawns, pick up aluminum cans on the road side - but I don't want a thing. She's tried, it didn't work - I sent it back. Then I got a chance to go to her home and I went to work on it. NOW? Now I don't feel bad about how her house is. No drafts, no mold, new furnace, insulation....clean ducts, but while all this work was going on? My sister sat doing NOTHING. Never even came to visit, never even made the attempt to come see me OR my Mom. Two months later when it began to snow buckets? She NEVER EVER came to my Moms to see if there was some shoveling of the walk that could be done - (I had already arranged for her to have a guy do it) but not once this year did she even call to say - need help?) and two years ago? My Mom DID have hip surgery and NOT ONE TIME during the winter did my sister even offer to come help her with her stockings for circulation - yet when she wrecked her car recently she asked ME to put on her socks...and I said to her what she told my Mom over the phone "Ewwwwwww I don't touch feet - they're gross" Everyone in the hospital room looked at me like I was cold and uncaring, and I got up, I put them on, and I looked her dead in the eye and I said "Well isn't that what you're supposed to say to people when they ask you to change their compression stockings after they've wiped your butt for years and changed your diapers?" and that look you get (raised eyebrow) with complete anger came over me like a tsunami.....and she KNEW EXACTLY what I meant...and said "Well it's okay if you don't want to...and I said "It's not big deal - we're family - family helps..because the only OTHER way you can do this - is to grab a cane,,,,,push the sock off with the cane ---and struggle for nearly an hour to try to get it back on with a set of those tongs you use to reach things off the floor....isnt' that right Mom?" Our Mom said NOTHING. Belive me I'm loving until you mess with my family - and then? The grave would look like a Carribean hot spot. So it's not like she didn't get it - she's doing exactly what she wants and knows it. And my nice? WOW.......there's a girl that is in my humble opinion by comparison trying as hard as she might but going to fail miserably to get he merit badge in Ice Princess. Sad thing about wearing a crown of ice cubes, when you choose to shut your immediate family out - and your Aunt and Nana are professional detachment experts? The only one that is going to loose out in that litlte charade? Is you. I've already HAD to be like that to survive, not by choice - and it's not a good place to be. I'm basically ambivalent about it. I do know that I've been SICK TO HERE with her fakeness for years but have never said a word for fear it would cause a huge family rift. Now that she's 18 and an adult? I am free to speak my peace if I choose about her treatment of my Mother and if provoked now? Maybe just one last time? I'll take my entire ensemble out of deep freeze and show little miss cool what a complete Artic Blast is all about - because I've been saving up this cold front for about six years. And while I'm at it? I just may frost over my sisters assets too. And when that's done? Old Man Winter wants to blow in a Nor'Easter of his own because he said he's NEVER seen two women treat their Mother like these two EVER and I just may step off our "NO family" rule this one time and let him at 'em. DF has kept his peace and opinions to himself for 12 years. Very admirable. At least it would be 2 less for Holiday dinners that would probably say "Did you buy this with FOODSTAMPS? If you did we can't eat it - we're going to Wendys." I really need to get off this subject....few things get under my skin - and I guess I really DO care about her and my niece but I just DO NOT Understand HOW you can have such a wonderful Mom/Grandmother and be given all the opportunities like they have been given and go OUT OF YOUR WAY to be so ugly. My son thinks his Nana hates him ---and rightfully so - he hasn't done much to make her proud, but he's NEVER done or said ANYTHING like this. (insert scream) I guess if this were an experiment? Maybe my test subject will pull his head out of his **** and BE a decent person finally and take the opportunity to show her he's worthy. (Shrug....exhale) one can hope....He really does love her and would do anything for her if he were there? She would never have to rake, plow or mow again. I know that much. He just gets over zealous.....and does dumb stuff like trims holes in her bushes.....lol....(when he was four) Okay off soapbox again. Thanks for the vent - I swear when I woke up this morning I was surrounded by puppies and still thinking about this I felt like my heart was in knots....makes me so bloody angry. .........I'm much better now. (like Marty Feldman in that movie).........hahaha. Ahem.......going to get dressed now...... [/QUOTE]
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