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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 327995" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>This is a pretty normal thing for a kid to do. Or to at least try. Have you ever told him that lunch money is for lunch and if it isn't spent it is to be given back?</p><p></p><p>I can easily see making him give it back as it was given to him for a specific purpose and was diverted to pay for things he wants. This would probably be my choice if we were having hunger related crankiness, attitude, etc... or he was having hunger headaches. </p><p></p><p>Have you asked him WHY he isn't eating lunch? If he seems concerned about his weight or whatever, this is an age where boys can start to show eating disorders, esp if they have to be in certain weight classes for sports. His answer to the question would play a BIG role in whether he kept the money or I kept it.</p><p></p><p>He may have seen this as a way to be able to buy things he wants with-o pestering you because the money is tight. Rather than asking for a new CD or game, or money for a dance, he goes with-o lunch and then uses his lunch $$ for the wanted item.</p><p></p><p>Haven't many of us made that same choice when we worked all day out of the house, or when we wanted to save up for something? When I worked in a bank I often skipped lunch so that I could buy something we needed or the kids wanted. </p><p></p><p>However you look at it, this could be a great teachable moment. Sit down with him and let him tell you why he isn't eating and why he didn't give the money back. Tell him what the rules about this will be - must give money back to mom? Money only on the lunch card? Cash for him to spend using his best judgment? etc...</p><p></p><p>Maybe even praise his ingenuity for skipping lunch to buy a want rather than asking you or his dad for it when money is tight.</p><p></p><p>Be aware if he has to spend it or give you the money back he will likely not go back to eating the regular lunch. He will fill up on junk or buy junk for his friends. I think most kids would do this. </p><p></p><p>Just be SURE to contact the cafeteria mgr and have her limit how much junk he can buy each day. (Our kids have to show student ID before they pay if they have cash. This is because so many kids with food allergies were binging on stuff that made them sick either as a treat or to get out of a test. For lunch cards money is actually tied right into the student ID and there is no separate lunch card.) In many schools money on a lunch card can only be used for the hot lunch, not for the junk food snacks, at least in our state.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 327995, member: 1233"] This is a pretty normal thing for a kid to do. Or to at least try. Have you ever told him that lunch money is for lunch and if it isn't spent it is to be given back? I can easily see making him give it back as it was given to him for a specific purpose and was diverted to pay for things he wants. This would probably be my choice if we were having hunger related crankiness, attitude, etc... or he was having hunger headaches. Have you asked him WHY he isn't eating lunch? If he seems concerned about his weight or whatever, this is an age where boys can start to show eating disorders, esp if they have to be in certain weight classes for sports. His answer to the question would play a BIG role in whether he kept the money or I kept it. He may have seen this as a way to be able to buy things he wants with-o pestering you because the money is tight. Rather than asking for a new CD or game, or money for a dance, he goes with-o lunch and then uses his lunch $$ for the wanted item. Haven't many of us made that same choice when we worked all day out of the house, or when we wanted to save up for something? When I worked in a bank I often skipped lunch so that I could buy something we needed or the kids wanted. However you look at it, this could be a great teachable moment. Sit down with him and let him tell you why he isn't eating and why he didn't give the money back. Tell him what the rules about this will be - must give money back to mom? Money only on the lunch card? Cash for him to spend using his best judgment? etc... Maybe even praise his ingenuity for skipping lunch to buy a want rather than asking you or his dad for it when money is tight. Be aware if he has to spend it or give you the money back he will likely not go back to eating the regular lunch. He will fill up on junk or buy junk for his friends. I think most kids would do this. Just be SURE to contact the cafeteria mgr and have her limit how much junk he can buy each day. (Our kids have to show student ID before they pay if they have cash. This is because so many kids with food allergies were binging on stuff that made them sick either as a treat or to get out of a test. For lunch cards money is actually tied right into the student ID and there is no separate lunch card.) In many schools money on a lunch card can only be used for the hot lunch, not for the junk food snacks, at least in our state. [/QUOTE]
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