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sleeping with doors locked; difficult child left, wants to come home, Part II
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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 166361" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Hi Jo,</p><p>I admire you for keeping your strong stance and I think it is the correct one. She is "talking" but so far has not actually done anything. I think in your reply to her it is important to stay neutral--MB had a good answer for her dtr. She really does need to actually follow through on the things she says she will do before you could consider having her back home. I think you are so right--if she actually does some things she may find some confidence and may not even want to return home. I was lucky in that respect--once I kicked difficult child out she didn't ever want to return to live with us. But before that, when she was leaving her rehabs, she sounded so good--she had so many good plans and was so sorry she had treated us so badly, as you say, "blather, blather, blather." It lasted for maybe 2 days and then she was back to her old self.</p><p></p><p>I think it will be hard to tell her no without her feeling rejected because of her skewed view of things but you have no control over that. You can only do your best and if she is serious she will get that counseling appointment. and learn how to interpret your words and actions in a healthier way.</p><p></p><p>Again, you are doing so well!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 166361, member: 3208"] Hi Jo, I admire you for keeping your strong stance and I think it is the correct one. She is "talking" but so far has not actually done anything. I think in your reply to her it is important to stay neutral--MB had a good answer for her dtr. She really does need to actually follow through on the things she says she will do before you could consider having her back home. I think you are so right--if she actually does some things she may find some confidence and may not even want to return home. I was lucky in that respect--once I kicked difficult child out she didn't ever want to return to live with us. But before that, when she was leaving her rehabs, she sounded so good--she had so many good plans and was so sorry she had treated us so badly, as you say, "blather, blather, blather." It lasted for maybe 2 days and then she was back to her old self. I think it will be hard to tell her no without her feeling rejected because of her skewed view of things but you have no control over that. You can only do your best and if she is serious she will get that counseling appointment. and learn how to interpret your words and actions in a healthier way. Again, you are doing so well!!!!!! Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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