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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 332105" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I must be in the rare minority who has had fairly good therapists for my son. Now I have seen some idiots for myself but that is another story. I do have a good therapist for myself now.</p><p></p><p>My son has been in therapy of some kind since he was 4 until he was 17. I dont know if we would call all of it family therapy but we were always involved in his therapy. Obviously we had to be because we had to take him...lol. </p><p></p><p>When he was really young he was in a childrens day treatment program where he went every day for about 3 hours a day. They met with me for a little while each week, as I recall, to talk about what they were working on each week and I could watch him through a two way mirror to see how he was doing in the classroom. There was a large component of behavior mod to that therapy but also some play therapy. At 4-6 we were using sticker charts and rewards. Thats when we found out they didnt work well...lol. </p><p></p><p>After he aged out of day treatment, he went on to an individual therapist and I would go in for half the appointment with him and we would talk about how things were going and then he would be in there alone. If the therapist had any lingering concerns after meeting with him alone, she would send him into the playroom and meet with me alone. </p><p></p><p>We loved this therapist. Problem was, Cory could tell her exactly what he was supposed to do but couldnt do it outside of therapy and she recognized this. </p><p></p><p>When he was in wilderness camp for 16 months, his dad and I did parents therapy at the camp. The kids werent involved but all the parents from his group met once a month to work on parenting skills. Now this really was not extremely useful but, it did help to a degree. Everyone can gain some better parenting skills. Plus we met some nice people. </p><p></p><p>When Cory came home, we put him back into mental health and he started back with therapy. He got another therapist that we liked. Again she would meet with him alone and I would meet with her alone. He also had a case manager that we both met with. His life was micro-managed. We all talked well. We all got along very well. </p><p></p><p>When he went to his Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he had individual therapy and family therapy that was done both in person and over the phone because he was almost two hours away. I went twice a month in person and they called the other two times a month to make it easier on me. They were very good. </p><p></p><p>I never got the "Its all the parents fault" deal. Ok...maybe once I did, when I first went to someone when he was 2 and a half some idiot psychiatrist told me he did what he did because I had been sexually abused. I left that office so fast I think I left skid marks. LOL. He was 2 for gosh sakes. He didnt know I had been abused! </p><p></p><p>Other than that, I never got the idea from anyone we worked with that they thought that we were the sole reason for my kids issues. Sure maybe we could change some things to make things better, who couldnt learn new skills? We worked as a team with a ton of people to raise Cory and Jamie to a lesser degree.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 332105, member: 1514"] I must be in the rare minority who has had fairly good therapists for my son. Now I have seen some idiots for myself but that is another story. I do have a good therapist for myself now. My son has been in therapy of some kind since he was 4 until he was 17. I dont know if we would call all of it family therapy but we were always involved in his therapy. Obviously we had to be because we had to take him...lol. When he was really young he was in a childrens day treatment program where he went every day for about 3 hours a day. They met with me for a little while each week, as I recall, to talk about what they were working on each week and I could watch him through a two way mirror to see how he was doing in the classroom. There was a large component of behavior mod to that therapy but also some play therapy. At 4-6 we were using sticker charts and rewards. Thats when we found out they didnt work well...lol. After he aged out of day treatment, he went on to an individual therapist and I would go in for half the appointment with him and we would talk about how things were going and then he would be in there alone. If the therapist had any lingering concerns after meeting with him alone, she would send him into the playroom and meet with me alone. We loved this therapist. Problem was, Cory could tell her exactly what he was supposed to do but couldnt do it outside of therapy and she recognized this. When he was in wilderness camp for 16 months, his dad and I did parents therapy at the camp. The kids werent involved but all the parents from his group met once a month to work on parenting skills. Now this really was not extremely useful but, it did help to a degree. Everyone can gain some better parenting skills. Plus we met some nice people. When Cory came home, we put him back into mental health and he started back with therapy. He got another therapist that we liked. Again she would meet with him alone and I would meet with her alone. He also had a case manager that we both met with. His life was micro-managed. We all talked well. We all got along very well. When he went to his Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he had individual therapy and family therapy that was done both in person and over the phone because he was almost two hours away. I went twice a month in person and they called the other two times a month to make it easier on me. They were very good. I never got the "Its all the parents fault" deal. Ok...maybe once I did, when I first went to someone when he was 2 and a half some idiot psychiatrist told me he did what he did because I had been sexually abused. I left that office so fast I think I left skid marks. LOL. He was 2 for gosh sakes. He didnt know I had been abused! Other than that, I never got the idea from anyone we worked with that they thought that we were the sole reason for my kids issues. Sure maybe we could change some things to make things better, who couldnt learn new skills? We worked as a team with a ton of people to raise Cory and Jamie to a lesser degree. [/QUOTE]
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