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Bunny
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So difficult child has his appointment with his therapist the other night and I came out so aggravated! therapist, husband and I all met last week to make sure that we are all on the same page in connection with dealing with difficult child and his behaviors at home. We came up with the idea of a difficult child Book. Each night I write in the book the happenings of the day, both good and bad and we are supposed to use that as an outline for what needs to be discussed and worked on in session. We decided to do this because difficult child tends to steer the conversation to things that he wants to talk about, which is always good stuff, like how well he is doing in school and the good things that he did during the week. The bad behaviors are never going to be addressed that way.
The first thing that happened was when difficult child realized what the book was he got really angry. We tried to explain it that this way I could have a good record of what happened during the week, and I even showed him that there were days that had written, "Good day. Nothing of note to report." He insisted that I was going to write only bad things and never tell the therapist when he was well behaved.
What happened? The therapist totally allowed difficult child to turn the conversation to other things!! What the heck is the point of keeping the difficult child book if we're not even going to use it? Of course he's never going to want to talk about telling me that he doesn't "even know why dad keeps [me] around any more because [I'm] pretty useless," and have to work on why he says really mean things like that, when he can talk about the topics of his choice and be praised.
Paqm
The first thing that happened was when difficult child realized what the book was he got really angry. We tried to explain it that this way I could have a good record of what happened during the week, and I even showed him that there were days that had written, "Good day. Nothing of note to report." He insisted that I was going to write only bad things and never tell the therapist when he was well behaved.
What happened? The therapist totally allowed difficult child to turn the conversation to other things!! What the heck is the point of keeping the difficult child book if we're not even going to use it? Of course he's never going to want to talk about telling me that he doesn't "even know why dad keeps [me] around any more because [I'm] pretty useless," and have to work on why he says really mean things like that, when he can talk about the topics of his choice and be praised.
Paqm