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So, how do you detach? What did YOU do?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 633698" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Let me post a few resources that helped me. You sound really distraught and I'm soooooooooooo sorry. I know it's hard. I had to do it twice. One of my adult children came back to me. One is still very much in my life, but under close boundaries and rules of how he can treat me to be able to stay in my life. I find it very sad that I have to do this to my own child, but if I don't, he is capable of driving me to a nervous breakdown as I do have a mood disorder and anxiety and panic disorder and maybe am less resilient than some. Have to take care of ourselves or we are no good to ANYONE else either. Here are some good books an d resources you can contact.</p><p></p><p>Any Twelve Step program, such as Al-Anon, Narc-Anon, Families Anonymous, Codependents Anonymous, Emotions Anonymous...good programs that focus on how to detach with love and learn how to take care of yourself. You are not forced to talk but you can listen and learn...maybe you'l hear something that resonates.</p><p></p><p>National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) which has classes and other info for those who have mentally ill loved ones.</p><p></p><p>"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. A must read.</p><p></p><p>"Boundaires" by Cloud and Townsend. A great book witdh a Christian flavor, but even if you are not Christian there is a lot of help in that book. Just skip the Christian parts.</p><p></p><p>"Without Conscience" by Dr. Robert Hare, an explanation of antisocial personality disorder</p><p></p><p>Any private therapist who will focus on YOU.</p><p></p><p>Use all of them, if you like <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 633698, member: 1550"] Let me post a few resources that helped me. You sound really distraught and I'm soooooooooooo sorry. I know it's hard. I had to do it twice. One of my adult children came back to me. One is still very much in my life, but under close boundaries and rules of how he can treat me to be able to stay in my life. I find it very sad that I have to do this to my own child, but if I don't, he is capable of driving me to a nervous breakdown as I do have a mood disorder and anxiety and panic disorder and maybe am less resilient than some. Have to take care of ourselves or we are no good to ANYONE else either. Here are some good books an d resources you can contact. Any Twelve Step program, such as Al-Anon, Narc-Anon, Families Anonymous, Codependents Anonymous, Emotions Anonymous...good programs that focus on how to detach with love and learn how to take care of yourself. You are not forced to talk but you can listen and learn...maybe you'l hear something that resonates. National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) which has classes and other info for those who have mentally ill loved ones. "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. A must read. "Boundaires" by Cloud and Townsend. A great book witdh a Christian flavor, but even if you are not Christian there is a lot of help in that book. Just skip the Christian parts. "Without Conscience" by Dr. Robert Hare, an explanation of antisocial personality disorder Any private therapist who will focus on YOU. Use all of them, if you like :) [/QUOTE]
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