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So I finally kicked him out - why do I feel like ****?
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 545929"><p>You made the right call. 20 is too old to be still living at home unless a kid's in school full time or working full time to save $$ for school AND is behaving well, following rules, and being a good guest--which is what they are at that age. Smoking weed & not working & not going to school & stealing from you = he's out, period. I know you feel badly, but it's absolutely the right decision. And don't relent--he won't grow up if you let him live at home, and believe it or not, he knows what you did was right, even though he's not likely to say so. </p><p></p><p>When I was 20, I was malfunctioning--not too badly, but a college drop-out, living at home with my parents, drinking a lot & frequently, partying whenever I could, not making any progress toward adulthood. I was helpful around the house, convivial and responsible, absolutely no lying or stealing--but still, my (very old-school southern) father took my measure and told me I had to move out. I hated him for it, but I saw the writing on the wall and enlisted in the army. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made: made me grow up, toughened me, a great platform financially for college and the beginning of adulthood. He and I are huge pals now. They don't always hate for pushing them out of the nest, and deep down they know you're right to do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 545929"] You made the right call. 20 is too old to be still living at home unless a kid's in school full time or working full time to save $$ for school AND is behaving well, following rules, and being a good guest--which is what they are at that age. Smoking weed & not working & not going to school & stealing from you = he's out, period. I know you feel badly, but it's absolutely the right decision. And don't relent--he won't grow up if you let him live at home, and believe it or not, he knows what you did was right, even though he's not likely to say so. When I was 20, I was malfunctioning--not too badly, but a college drop-out, living at home with my parents, drinking a lot & frequently, partying whenever I could, not making any progress toward adulthood. I was helpful around the house, convivial and responsible, absolutely no lying or stealing--but still, my (very old-school southern) father took my measure and told me I had to move out. I hated him for it, but I saw the writing on the wall and enlisted in the army. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made: made me grow up, toughened me, a great platform financially for college and the beginning of adulthood. He and I are huge pals now. They don't always hate for pushing them out of the nest, and deep down they know you're right to do it. [/QUOTE]
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