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So I have not told difficult child yet.........
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 256501" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>that I am moving to AZ. I talked to his counselor today in his group home and he thinks Matt will be pretty upset, but this will be a great "growth opp".</p><p>(I love how counselors word things. In reality that meant - you are gonna need to take a valium mom.) </p><p></p><p>I am supposed to tell Matt via a phone conference on Tues - with his counselor present. I know I am not responsible for Matt's emotions or his reactions - and yet - I do not want him to end up back in phosph or jail for a violent outburst because he is overwhelmed by this. It is such a catch 22 for me. I can barely deal with my own issues, let alone his. OK, yes, in a way, this is selfish. I just want to move, and not deal with his cr@p!<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /> I do not want to start a new job when I am obsessively worried about difficult child. I just DON'T. Grrrrr.............(OK, yes, I know it is my choice on whether to worry. I get it. But you know what I mean.)</p><p></p><p>Certainly there has to be a way in which I can break this news to Matt without him just losing it. He is so co-dependent on me, and I know that is my fault. He freaks out if I don't answer the phone, let alone me moving. </p><p></p><p>I will do this, but I am just wondering if you guys have any sage advice on how to handle all of this? I am just feeling so overwhelmed with all of my own personal moving issues - I cannot imagine having to deal with difficult child's drama on top of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 256501, member: 3301"] that I am moving to AZ. I talked to his counselor today in his group home and he thinks Matt will be pretty upset, but this will be a great "growth opp". (I love how counselors word things. In reality that meant - you are gonna need to take a valium mom.) I am supposed to tell Matt via a phone conference on Tues - with his counselor present. I know I am not responsible for Matt's emotions or his reactions - and yet - I do not want him to end up back in phosph or jail for a violent outburst because he is overwhelmed by this. It is such a catch 22 for me. I can barely deal with my own issues, let alone his. OK, yes, in a way, this is selfish. I just want to move, and not deal with his cr@p!:knockedout: I do not want to start a new job when I am obsessively worried about difficult child. I just DON'T. Grrrrr.............(OK, yes, I know it is my choice on whether to worry. I get it. But you know what I mean.) Certainly there has to be a way in which I can break this news to Matt without him just losing it. He is so co-dependent on me, and I know that is my fault. He freaks out if I don't answer the phone, let alone me moving. I will do this, but I am just wondering if you guys have any sage advice on how to handle all of this? I am just feeling so overwhelmed with all of my own personal moving issues - I cannot imagine having to deal with difficult child's drama on top of this. [/QUOTE]
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