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So I have not told difficult child yet.........
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 256509" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I would make sure I had some medications for ME before I told him anything. That way if he flipped out I could do what I needed to in order to care for myself. because ME flipping out is not useful for any of us. </p><p></p><p>then I would let him know that he is loved no matter where I am living, that I am NOT getting rid of his stuff (I would keep ALL of it that you have - my husband ended up with almost NO childhood stuff or even college stuff because his mom remarried and let her new husband sell all of his prize possessions - huge baseball card collection, train sets, etc... ALL sold with-o his knowledge or him having a chance to get them. He was in a dorm and had left home thinking he always had a home there - as they told him. Mom wouldn't let Dad have the stuff to save for him, and wouldn't let him come and get them either. It is STILL a rift between husband and his mom. So keep Matt's stuff as best you can.)</p><p></p><p>Let him know he and the stuff he treasures but can't have at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be safe with you and that your home is still the "family" home where holidays are held, etc...</p><p></p><p>Then let him take responsibility for his reaction and emotions. HOpefully he will be proud of you for this new opportunity and glad you can get away from this abusive company.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 256509, member: 1233"] I would make sure I had some medications for ME before I told him anything. That way if he flipped out I could do what I needed to in order to care for myself. because ME flipping out is not useful for any of us. then I would let him know that he is loved no matter where I am living, that I am NOT getting rid of his stuff (I would keep ALL of it that you have - my husband ended up with almost NO childhood stuff or even college stuff because his mom remarried and let her new husband sell all of his prize possessions - huge baseball card collection, train sets, etc... ALL sold with-o his knowledge or him having a chance to get them. He was in a dorm and had left home thinking he always had a home there - as they told him. Mom wouldn't let Dad have the stuff to save for him, and wouldn't let him come and get them either. It is STILL a rift between husband and his mom. So keep Matt's stuff as best you can.) Let him know he and the stuff he treasures but can't have at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be safe with you and that your home is still the "family" home where holidays are held, etc... Then let him take responsibility for his reaction and emotions. HOpefully he will be proud of you for this new opportunity and glad you can get away from this abusive company. [/QUOTE]
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