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So I lost my cookies with the police officer...
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 23635" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I knew this would strike a nerve, and that's ok. I know the law, and I agree with the law, but I do not know how to force a person to comply with the law - and you say that to folks and they look at you like you're from an alien planet - how can you "not" control a 4 year old. Beleive me, I thought that once, too. </p><p></p><p>But I invite anyone to come on over and have a try. When he gets it in his mind that he is or is not doing something, he'll be quick to teach a lot of folks a thing or two about control. Its a myth. We have little over anything but ourselves. Even 4 year olds. We have influence, maybe, but not control.</p><p></p><p>The law also states that we're responsible for our kids until their 18. Can we control their actions and decisions til then?</p><p></p><p>Doesn't mean we shouldn't try, just stating that its not always possible.</p><p></p><p>I can start any trip with difficult child in the seat. But 1/3 or more of the trips end up in some sort of rift at some point, and if he were in a seat, it would become the issue, to some degree.</p><p></p><p>To abide by the law, I have 4 options. Transport him in the seat, which he will get out of 30%+ of the time, never transport him, hire another second person to go with us, or buy a cop car (note the cop car still won't be legal, cause he can get ouf of the seat, just not out of the car or to me to interefere with driving safely (which would put my mind at ease)). </p><p></p><p>If I don't take him to appointments, he has no chance of getting better. I can't afford the second person or the cop car. At least not while I'm taking the time off work and paying to take him to appointments (if I stop doing those things, I could afford another person or a car).</p><p></p><p>Its not a matter of me choosing to ignore the law - its a matter of physically not being able to abide by it. With a seat, its not "if" we wreck, but when, how bad, and how many others we hurt in the process. I don't want to lose my little boy, but I surely don't want to hurt or kill other people because of his actions. Four years old or not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 23635, member: 1848"] I knew this would strike a nerve, and that's ok. I know the law, and I agree with the law, but I do not know how to force a person to comply with the law - and you say that to folks and they look at you like you're from an alien planet - how can you "not" control a 4 year old. Beleive me, I thought that once, too. But I invite anyone to come on over and have a try. When he gets it in his mind that he is or is not doing something, he'll be quick to teach a lot of folks a thing or two about control. Its a myth. We have little over anything but ourselves. Even 4 year olds. We have influence, maybe, but not control. The law also states that we're responsible for our kids until their 18. Can we control their actions and decisions til then? Doesn't mean we shouldn't try, just stating that its not always possible. I can start any trip with difficult child in the seat. But 1/3 or more of the trips end up in some sort of rift at some point, and if he were in a seat, it would become the issue, to some degree. To abide by the law, I have 4 options. Transport him in the seat, which he will get out of 30%+ of the time, never transport him, hire another second person to go with us, or buy a cop car (note the cop car still won't be legal, cause he can get ouf of the seat, just not out of the car or to me to interefere with driving safely (which would put my mind at ease)). If I don't take him to appointments, he has no chance of getting better. I can't afford the second person or the cop car. At least not while I'm taking the time off work and paying to take him to appointments (if I stop doing those things, I could afford another person or a car). Its not a matter of me choosing to ignore the law - its a matter of physically not being able to abide by it. With a seat, its not "if" we wreck, but when, how bad, and how many others we hurt in the process. I don't want to lose my little boy, but I surely don't want to hurt or kill other people because of his actions. Four years old or not. [/QUOTE]
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