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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 121089" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Jennifer</p><p> </p><p>You know, I replied but I just realized I didn't really answer your question.</p><p> </p><p>Raising kids is tough, raising difficult children is mega tough. Many, many times over the years my patience would begin to wear thin, or become non-existant. It's enevitable. We're not super human.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Happens to the best of us from time to time. I think Travis was about 7 or 8 when it dawned on me that all I ever seemed to do with the boy was correct him. I'm serious. And even though it might have been Necessary (it was believe me lol), I didn't want his only memories of me when he was a child as always correcting or nagging him. So with great effort I literally FOUND reasons to praise him at least several times a day to help balance out the constant dicipline. I found reasons to hug him, or just would walk up and hug him for the heck of it........ Stuff like that.</p><p> </p><p>I was stunned at the subtle but very noticable change I saw in him. Such a little thing really, but to him it made a world of difference.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes when our kids are young and our lives are hectic, we're caught up in the daily challenges and struggles, that we just start reacting to things. It's not that we mean for it to happen. It's like getting stuck in a groove.</p><p> </p><p>I think that it's great that you took boyfriend's comments seriously, looked at it objectively, and decided to try something different to correct it. That's not always as easy to do as it should be. And kuddos to boyfriend for bringing it to your attention. He sounds like a keeper.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 121089, member: 84"] Jennifer You know, I replied but I just realized I didn't really answer your question. Raising kids is tough, raising difficult children is mega tough. Many, many times over the years my patience would begin to wear thin, or become non-existant. It's enevitable. We're not super human. Happens to the best of us from time to time. I think Travis was about 7 or 8 when it dawned on me that all I ever seemed to do with the boy was correct him. I'm serious. And even though it might have been Necessary (it was believe me lol), I didn't want his only memories of me when he was a child as always correcting or nagging him. So with great effort I literally FOUND reasons to praise him at least several times a day to help balance out the constant dicipline. I found reasons to hug him, or just would walk up and hug him for the heck of it........ Stuff like that. I was stunned at the subtle but very noticable change I saw in him. Such a little thing really, but to him it made a world of difference. Sometimes when our kids are young and our lives are hectic, we're caught up in the daily challenges and struggles, that we just start reacting to things. It's not that we mean for it to happen. It's like getting stuck in a groove. I think that it's great that you took boyfriend's comments seriously, looked at it objectively, and decided to try something different to correct it. That's not always as easy to do as it should be. And kuddos to boyfriend for bringing it to your attention. He sounds like a keeper. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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