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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 96530" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Your post really got me thinking back too. When we got difficult child at the age of 9, he was on Tenex, Adderall and Zoloft. The explainations that the social workers gave us were: Adderall - because he is ADHD (but no explanation of exactly what that entails), Zoloft - because he suffers from depression and Tenex because he gets angry and has rages. (They actually told us that the Tenex is an anti-hypertension medication and he is on it because if his blood pressure is lower, he won't get as angry. :surprise: WHAT???) After a year of pure he**, he was hospitalized and diagnosed with BiPolar (BP) and had a complete medication wash and change. Once he was on the Depakote, it was like an almost instant change as far as the rages went. Yeah, he still had his moments but I didn't really have to restrain him anymore.</p><p></p><p>But.......let's break this down. ADHD? Oh yeah, no arguments there, keep the Adderall. </p><p></p><p>Depression? The kid has been in and out of foster care his entire life and consistently since the age of 4. He has been in numerous foster homes, had 2 (BACK TO BACK) failed pre-adoptive placements (one of which was with members of his birth family)and probably thinks that no one wants him and that he's a bad kid. Yeah, I'd be depressed too. But clinical depression? Probably not so no more Zoloft.</p><p></p><p>Tenex - Now we know that that is a good medication for him but the reasoning we were given? These people are out of their flipping minds.</p><p></p><p>And the kicker for me? I went back through some old reports that I had gotten my hands on before we adopted him. (because AFTER the adoption, we wouldn't have the RIGHT to see his old medical records). He had, at an earlier time, been diagnosis'd with BiPolar (BP) and had been on the Depakote. Was it kept up on? Nope. Gee, you think the resulting rages might have something to do with why people felt they couldn't handle him and would send him back because of behavioral issues??? That burned me to no end when I found that out. Yeah, we may not have wound up with him if they had kept him on his Depakote but he may have wound up either with some of his birth family or closer to his siblings. Or, hmmmmm...maybe not had to go through some of the disruptions and moves from home to home. Ya think?! </p><p></p><p>Granted, on his medications (when they are at good levels) he's still not a little angel but they definately help. I know that some of his "issues" are related to his time in foster care whether specifically or in a sense that it contributes or feeds his BiPolar (BP) symptoms but sometimes it's hard to distinguish. I am glad that we got him and not his birth family, because honestly, their kids aren't turning out the best and that's WITHOUT diagnosis's. (I think in their case, parenting is an issue) But at the same time, for him, I wish that he could have stayed with one of the other families so he could have grown up closer to his sibs. (We live about 2 hours from his original county) We use to have some contact but we would always be the ones to initiate it. I stopped doing it and they NEVER call. (yeah, off on a tangent here but it always gets me worked up)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm not sure what I'm trying to say here. :hammer: I guess it's that I agree with you Janna. There are so many diagnosis's flying around at early ages that either aren't right or if they happen to land on a good one, sometimes it's not followed through. Then you have all of this time that could have been better and wasn't and things that happen that shouldn't have.</p><p></p><p></p><p>And yes, I remember the tools! LOL We should start a "destruction pile". I can contribute the power washer that was smashed against a tree during play and then tossed over the fence so we wouldn't see it. (That was just a couple of years ago!) Also, numerous mops, brooms, missing tools, tape, bolts (a lot of them were REMOVED from things), appliances with the cords cut off, household decorations, towels, ummmm....oh yeah, our desktop computer.....and so many more things. You know, I think if we all contributed to the pile, our space program could save a lot of money out of their budget. We wouldn't need rockets to get to space.....just scale the pile!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 96530, member: 2459"] Your post really got me thinking back too. When we got difficult child at the age of 9, he was on Tenex, Adderall and Zoloft. The explainations that the social workers gave us were: Adderall - because he is ADHD (but no explanation of exactly what that entails), Zoloft - because he suffers from depression and Tenex because he gets angry and has rages. (They actually told us that the Tenex is an anti-hypertension medication and he is on it because if his blood pressure is lower, he won't get as angry. [img]:surprise:[/img] WHAT???) After a year of pure he**, he was hospitalized and diagnosed with BiPolar (BP) and had a complete medication wash and change. Once he was on the Depakote, it was like an almost instant change as far as the rages went. Yeah, he still had his moments but I didn't really have to restrain him anymore. But.......let's break this down. ADHD? Oh yeah, no arguments there, keep the Adderall. Depression? The kid has been in and out of foster care his entire life and consistently since the age of 4. He has been in numerous foster homes, had 2 (BACK TO BACK) failed pre-adoptive placements (one of which was with members of his birth family)and probably thinks that no one wants him and that he's a bad kid. Yeah, I'd be depressed too. But clinical depression? Probably not so no more Zoloft. Tenex - Now we know that that is a good medication for him but the reasoning we were given? These people are out of their flipping minds. And the kicker for me? I went back through some old reports that I had gotten my hands on before we adopted him. (because AFTER the adoption, we wouldn't have the RIGHT to see his old medical records). He had, at an earlier time, been diagnosis'd with BiPolar (BP) and had been on the Depakote. Was it kept up on? Nope. Gee, you think the resulting rages might have something to do with why people felt they couldn't handle him and would send him back because of behavioral issues??? That burned me to no end when I found that out. Yeah, we may not have wound up with him if they had kept him on his Depakote but he may have wound up either with some of his birth family or closer to his siblings. Or, hmmmmm...maybe not had to go through some of the disruptions and moves from home to home. Ya think?! Granted, on his medications (when they are at good levels) he's still not a little angel but they definately help. I know that some of his "issues" are related to his time in foster care whether specifically or in a sense that it contributes or feeds his BiPolar (BP) symptoms but sometimes it's hard to distinguish. I am glad that we got him and not his birth family, because honestly, their kids aren't turning out the best and that's WITHOUT diagnosis's. (I think in their case, parenting is an issue) But at the same time, for him, I wish that he could have stayed with one of the other families so he could have grown up closer to his sibs. (We live about 2 hours from his original county) We use to have some contact but we would always be the ones to initiate it. I stopped doing it and they NEVER call. (yeah, off on a tangent here but it always gets me worked up) Anyway, I'm not sure what I'm trying to say here. [img]:hammer:[/img] I guess it's that I agree with you Janna. There are so many diagnosis's flying around at early ages that either aren't right or if they happen to land on a good one, sometimes it's not followed through. Then you have all of this time that could have been better and wasn't and things that happen that shouldn't have. And yes, I remember the tools! LOL We should start a "destruction pile". I can contribute the power washer that was smashed against a tree during play and then tossed over the fence so we wouldn't see it. (That was just a couple of years ago!) Also, numerous mops, brooms, missing tools, tape, bolts (a lot of them were REMOVED from things), appliances with the cords cut off, household decorations, towels, ummmm....oh yeah, our desktop computer.....and so many more things. You know, I think if we all contributed to the pile, our space program could save a lot of money out of their budget. We wouldn't need rockets to get to space.....just scale the pile! [/QUOTE]
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