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So much for a happy new year. This is no way to start.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 705530" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>It was very generous of you to send him the $50. I agree with you and Jabber telling him not to spend it on nonsense.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You may never know the truth of whether or not it was stolen. My son has told me so many different times that this or that was stolen. I never knew if I could believe him or not. Each time I would tell my son that you have to be extra diligent to guard what you have since what you have is so little. He would always have some kind of excuse as to "why" he stuff got stolen. What always irked me was that he would never take responsibility for not keeping track of his stuff. </p><p>When our difficult children make the choice to live a life where they are surrounded by people who are literally waiting for the opportunity to take advantage of them, it is no surprise that we get phone calls saying "my stuff" was stolen.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This right here would make me not want to send him another penny. I will give him credit for being honest with you and telling you what he spent it on. </p><p></p><p>Lil, I'm so sorry you are struggling with this. I know right where you are with this. It's gut wrenching. As you know you can only do what you can live with. I wish there was a number of times that you give money and or stuff, and get burned that you say "that's it". I said "that's it" so many times and then would give in. </p><p>What I do know is the more we give in the more we send them a message that we will continue to give.</p><p></p><p>My final straw was buying our son a $4000 dollar used SUV as we were concerned about our granddaughter & grandson needing to get to Dr.'s appointments, etc.... The deal was we would knock $1000 off so all our son had to pay was $3000. His payment was to be $100 a month. I never saw a dime. I knew going in that I may never see the money and I was okay with that. My son left my daughter in law and kids taking the car. He conned a man to let him move into an apt. When the man was going to throw him out due to not paying rent, my son gave the landlord the SUV. Yup, that was it for me.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you Lil, I know how hard this is. </p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 705530, member: 18516"] It was very generous of you to send him the $50. I agree with you and Jabber telling him not to spend it on nonsense. You may never know the truth of whether or not it was stolen. My son has told me so many different times that this or that was stolen. I never knew if I could believe him or not. Each time I would tell my son that you have to be extra diligent to guard what you have since what you have is so little. He would always have some kind of excuse as to "why" he stuff got stolen. What always irked me was that he would never take responsibility for not keeping track of his stuff. When our difficult children make the choice to live a life where they are surrounded by people who are literally waiting for the opportunity to take advantage of them, it is no surprise that we get phone calls saying "my stuff" was stolen. This right here would make me not want to send him another penny. I will give him credit for being honest with you and telling you what he spent it on. Lil, I'm so sorry you are struggling with this. I know right where you are with this. It's gut wrenching. As you know you can only do what you can live with. I wish there was a number of times that you give money and or stuff, and get burned that you say "that's it". I said "that's it" so many times and then would give in. What I do know is the more we give in the more we send them a message that we will continue to give. My final straw was buying our son a $4000 dollar used SUV as we were concerned about our granddaughter & grandson needing to get to Dr.'s appointments, etc.... The deal was we would knock $1000 off so all our son had to pay was $3000. His payment was to be $100 a month. I never saw a dime. I knew going in that I may never see the money and I was okay with that. My son left my daughter in law and kids taking the car. He conned a man to let him move into an apt. When the man was going to throw him out due to not paying rent, my son gave the landlord the SUV. Yup, that was it for me. My heart goes out to you Lil, I know how hard this is. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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