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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 212605" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>Hi,</p><p> </p><p>It doesn't sound "weird" at all. Infact it sounds about right. From what I have seen, your a very good person, with whom, due to your own difficult child has a soft spot for others with whom suffer from mental illness. You understand it so very well. Throw in as you said difficult child being away right now, and than there's this kid. You are very insightful about you. </p><p> </p><p>It is very possible you are "mentoring" him as you are due to your loss (distance) of your own difficult child. Yet that is ok, and totally normal in a sense. We live our lives in a certain way for so very long I think, which mainly focuses around and on them. There may be a bit of a void now. That's ok also. Helping him is ok also I think, as long as your own personal life does not become too wrapped up in it. You also have adapting to do probably into your new life, with difficult child away right now. Yet your own safety is first and foremost in the work place i think. Even though you feel a deep sense of caring for him, he is 27 and he is an employee. He has to be held accountable for his actions towards you.</p><p> </p><p>So, maybe what you could do is explain to him that you have no problem continuing to help him either via talks, or suggestions on medications, etc. yet there are workplace rules that he has to adhere to. This is part of growing and learning to handle and cope with this diagnosis in his life. That in turn will "help" him also I think.</p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't feel badly about this at all, I can see through your words you do somewhat. Your doing it out of the good ness of who you are, it may be heightened somewhat by your difficult child as I said, yet at the end of the day it's still your "want" to help.</p><p> </p><p>ok i hope i was of some help. Does he have family by the way?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 212605, member: 4514"] Hi, It doesn't sound "weird" at all. Infact it sounds about right. From what I have seen, your a very good person, with whom, due to your own difficult child has a soft spot for others with whom suffer from mental illness. You understand it so very well. Throw in as you said difficult child being away right now, and than there's this kid. You are very insightful about you. It is very possible you are "mentoring" him as you are due to your loss (distance) of your own difficult child. Yet that is ok, and totally normal in a sense. We live our lives in a certain way for so very long I think, which mainly focuses around and on them. There may be a bit of a void now. That's ok also. Helping him is ok also I think, as long as your own personal life does not become too wrapped up in it. You also have adapting to do probably into your new life, with difficult child away right now. Yet your own safety is first and foremost in the work place i think. Even though you feel a deep sense of caring for him, he is 27 and he is an employee. He has to be held accountable for his actions towards you. So, maybe what you could do is explain to him that you have no problem continuing to help him either via talks, or suggestions on medications, etc. yet there are workplace rules that he has to adhere to. This is part of growing and learning to handle and cope with this diagnosis in his life. That in turn will "help" him also I think. I wouldn't feel badly about this at all, I can see through your words you do somewhat. Your doing it out of the good ness of who you are, it may be heightened somewhat by your difficult child as I said, yet at the end of the day it's still your "want" to help. ok i hope i was of some help. Does he have family by the way? [/QUOTE]
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