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So now driving has opened up a new set of difficult child adventures
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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 637206" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>Thanks for your wisdom and advice, MidwestMom. In all honesty, I'm not sure I'm ready to give up my doormat status and face the tough work of detachment. I'm sure a person could analyze this as my own insanity and need to be in charge of something, maybe? Or maybe I'm too chicken to rock the boat with my grown and semi-grown kids. I'm thinking about all this, however, and am so grateful to be able to discuss these issues with you parents who understand the issues and where I'm coming from. I have some good friends who I share things with, but after a bit I can see their eyes glazing over and they really can't relate to my problems although they're supportive and sympathetic. My husband is supportive and I think we're equally hesitant to take a stand. Maybe all this is becoming too entrenched? I think we've allowed the abnormal to become "normal" to us.</p><p></p><p>As of next month, the 27-year-old will have been in our house for one year. This is way longer than expected. He hadn't previously lived with us since he moved out at age 18. His wife kicked him out of their house last November when she discovered he'd been using heroin. Since then he's been fired from his job, been arrested, been on house arrest for 6 months, and is now supposedly clean and sober and looking for work. I need to read more about detachment so I don't become one of those 80-year-old mothers taking care of a 60-year-old son. Some soul-searching is in order. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for your patience and the hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 637206, member: 18099"] Thanks for your wisdom and advice, MidwestMom. In all honesty, I'm not sure I'm ready to give up my doormat status and face the tough work of detachment. I'm sure a person could analyze this as my own insanity and need to be in charge of something, maybe? Or maybe I'm too chicken to rock the boat with my grown and semi-grown kids. I'm thinking about all this, however, and am so grateful to be able to discuss these issues with you parents who understand the issues and where I'm coming from. I have some good friends who I share things with, but after a bit I can see their eyes glazing over and they really can't relate to my problems although they're supportive and sympathetic. My husband is supportive and I think we're equally hesitant to take a stand. Maybe all this is becoming too entrenched? I think we've allowed the abnormal to become "normal" to us. As of next month, the 27-year-old will have been in our house for one year. This is way longer than expected. He hadn't previously lived with us since he moved out at age 18. His wife kicked him out of their house last November when she discovered he'd been using heroin. Since then he's been fired from his job, been arrested, been on house arrest for 6 months, and is now supposedly clean and sober and looking for work. I need to read more about detachment so I don't become one of those 80-year-old mothers taking care of a 60-year-old son. Some soul-searching is in order. Thanks for your patience and the hugs! [/QUOTE]
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