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So now driving has opened up a new set of difficult child adventures
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 637569" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I think most of us have made mistakes or had lapse in judgement while parenting and can totally relate. I know I can. When that happens you just have to regroup and go damage control mode.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm again sure most of us can. Heck, even my easy child tends to do things we have told him absolutely not to do. Telling them that underage drinking or whatever wasn't allowed really didn't work in my household. And my easy child really is an easy and great kid. And I have even rolled my eyes and laughed to some of it. (We did try that deadly serious commando parenting thing too with difficult child at one time, but that really didn't work. In fact it is very high on my list of parental screw ups we did.)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>To me it sounds like your older-difficult child had at least semi successful launch ones and this is more a bump (huge bump but still a bump) on the road and they are dealing with it rather mature and positive manner. Even if the movement is not as rapid as one would hope, they are moving to right direction and I too would do things to support that.</p><p></p><p>One doesn't need to be harsh to harshness sake. Life is not a competition who has the biggest cajones to be harsh or who best observes certain parenting/life/dealing with other people philosophy. Parenting is not about religious jihad to best observe the teachings of someone we keep in great value.</p><p></p><p></p><p>In my parenting/relationship philosophy you build onto the positives. You support and encourage things you want to see, you discourage (in varied ways from not giving them any attention to punishments) things you don't want to see. Same principles one can use in parenting one can use in other relationships. Your ability to control adults (are they your children, your subordinates or your neighbours) is of course much more limited than your ability to control underage children of yours. But you can still teach, lead, influence to that relationship and that person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 637569, member: 14557"] I think most of us have made mistakes or had lapse in judgement while parenting and can totally relate. I know I can. When that happens you just have to regroup and go damage control mode. I'm again sure most of us can. Heck, even my easy child tends to do things we have told him absolutely not to do. Telling them that underage drinking or whatever wasn't allowed really didn't work in my household. And my easy child really is an easy and great kid. And I have even rolled my eyes and laughed to some of it. (We did try that deadly serious commando parenting thing too with difficult child at one time, but that really didn't work. In fact it is very high on my list of parental screw ups we did.) To me it sounds like your older-difficult child had at least semi successful launch ones and this is more a bump (huge bump but still a bump) on the road and they are dealing with it rather mature and positive manner. Even if the movement is not as rapid as one would hope, they are moving to right direction and I too would do things to support that. One doesn't need to be harsh to harshness sake. Life is not a competition who has the biggest cajones to be harsh or who best observes certain parenting/life/dealing with other people philosophy. Parenting is not about religious jihad to best observe the teachings of someone we keep in great value. In my parenting/relationship philosophy you build onto the positives. You support and encourage things you want to see, you discourage (in varied ways from not giving them any attention to punishments) things you don't want to see. Same principles one can use in parenting one can use in other relationships. Your ability to control adults (are they your children, your subordinates or your neighbours) is of course much more limited than your ability to control underage children of yours. But you can still teach, lead, influence to that relationship and that person. [/QUOTE]
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