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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 191685" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>That explains a lot, Dara. It sounds like you really have a good connection to what is happening in his brain.</p><p></p><p>I've also found that difficult child 3 will learn something fast, with minimal exposure. And it takes him ages to unlearn it - a real headache. Bend the rules ONCE and he's on at us to ALWAYS do it the way we did it once.</p><p></p><p>As for the resentment of you teaching the class next door - I can see how that could happen to, and I think that also is connected to the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) - difficult child 1 did a similar thing as a baby; he was in long day care form 14 weeks old (although I would still visit several times a day to breastfeed) and attached himself to one particular child care worker, even though she did her utmost to avoid it. They had strict guidelines to prevent it, nobody was permitted favourites - but when difficult child 1 attached to her (and she got yelled at often by the Director!) there was nothing much they could do about it, he would cry every time she left the room and nobody could do a thing with him. The tight attachment continued for two years, then faded a bit as he got older. She was assigned to the babies (under 2) and when he was moved in with the older ones, he would hang around the door into the nursery to check to see where she was. The Director had to move her into the older class and reassign her! By the time he was 3 though, he was happy to spend time with other staff and didn't cry when she left the room any more.</p><p></p><p>She could never work out how it happened - I can only work it out now, with hindsight. Again, it comes down to them learning fast, sometimes from a single event.</p><p>Have you read "Son Rise"? You might find it interesting. I'd be interested to know your take on the book.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 191685, member: 1991"] That explains a lot, Dara. It sounds like you really have a good connection to what is happening in his brain. I've also found that difficult child 3 will learn something fast, with minimal exposure. And it takes him ages to unlearn it - a real headache. Bend the rules ONCE and he's on at us to ALWAYS do it the way we did it once. As for the resentment of you teaching the class next door - I can see how that could happen to, and I think that also is connected to the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) - difficult child 1 did a similar thing as a baby; he was in long day care form 14 weeks old (although I would still visit several times a day to breastfeed) and attached himself to one particular child care worker, even though she did her utmost to avoid it. They had strict guidelines to prevent it, nobody was permitted favourites - but when difficult child 1 attached to her (and she got yelled at often by the Director!) there was nothing much they could do about it, he would cry every time she left the room and nobody could do a thing with him. The tight attachment continued for two years, then faded a bit as he got older. She was assigned to the babies (under 2) and when he was moved in with the older ones, he would hang around the door into the nursery to check to see where she was. The Director had to move her into the older class and reassign her! By the time he was 3 though, he was happy to spend time with other staff and didn't cry when she left the room any more. She could never work out how it happened - I can only work it out now, with hindsight. Again, it comes down to them learning fast, sometimes from a single event. Have you read "Son Rise"? You might find it interesting. I'd be interested to know your take on the book. Marg [/QUOTE]
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