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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 681185" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi</p><p></p><p>I believe there are discharge coordinators. I second (third) the idea that this is not your responsibility. By paying rent for a month, you are giving him a gift. He may use it constructively or not. Be prepared for this.</p><p></p><p>I am not an expert in Substance Abuse Treatment. Let me say that.</p><p></p><p>There are residential programs that your son can go to, like Delancey Street, Victory Outreach, etc. and live and work there for as long as he would need. These as far as I know are free. They are all over the country. It is not too late to switch gears. He might prefer his own apartment, but has he earned it by demonstrating a commitment to sobriety and sustained work at remaining sober.</p><p></p><p>Like with all of us, there is the necessity to realize we pay for apartments, buy houses, etc. for ourselves, to look at ourselves in the mirror. They will, our children will, do what they wish. There is no real correlation between our efforts on their behalf and their own for themselves. That does not mean you should or should not do it.</p><p></p><p>Your son's choices in how to respond to his mental illness, have pretty much taken you out of the loop, in terms of control or responsibility.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting. It helps. Take care. You are good parents. But your son is in a place where good parents no longer carry the day. He must.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 681185, member: 18958"] Hi I believe there are discharge coordinators. I second (third) the idea that this is not your responsibility. By paying rent for a month, you are giving him a gift. He may use it constructively or not. Be prepared for this. I am not an expert in Substance Abuse Treatment. Let me say that. There are residential programs that your son can go to, like Delancey Street, Victory Outreach, etc. and live and work there for as long as he would need. These as far as I know are free. They are all over the country. It is not too late to switch gears. He might prefer his own apartment, but has he earned it by demonstrating a commitment to sobriety and sustained work at remaining sober. Like with all of us, there is the necessity to realize we pay for apartments, buy houses, etc. for ourselves, to look at ourselves in the mirror. They will, our children will, do what they wish. There is no real correlation between our efforts on their behalf and their own for themselves. That does not mean you should or should not do it. Your son's choices in how to respond to his mental illness, have pretty much taken you out of the loop, in terms of control or responsibility. Keep posting. It helps. Take care. You are good parents. But your son is in a place where good parents no longer carry the day. He must. COPA [/QUOTE]
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