So, The Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) Is Set

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Janna, Jul 24, 2007.

  1. Janna

    Janna New Member

    Dylan goes in August 13th. He's been accepted for the program. It's a voluntary one. 8-10 months, residential, intensive therapy.

    The program is great. They have stables and horses for theraputic riding. They have a greenhouse, garden for horticultural therapy. Dogs and hamsters for pet therapy. Dance, art, music therapy. They do individual, group and family counseling. It's, well, intensive.

    I can visit every day if I want. The first 30 days he can only come home one weekend, which is going to be hard, but after that, it will be more. We will work up his discharge plan when I admit him, which is great.

    He will be watched 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. 8 boys in a home, 3 boys to a bedroom. All his age, give or take a couple of years.

    It's very interesting how I've noticed things with Dylan over the last several months that are so clear, that I didn't really see before. I see the mania, moreso now than ever. He gets so incredibly silly, laughs uncontrollably, even when prompted it's inappropriate, he gets so frustrated because he just cannot stop. His babbling, his increased hyperactivity. It's really something to see. I don't know why, I just didn't see it that way a year ago.

    We still are thinking hypomania. We don't see a depressive side of Dylan, although he is still self harming with the head banging type stuff when he's frustrated. This concerns me, as I have spoken with several teens/young adults, who started out as head bangers, to later turn out to be self injurers (cutters). I am hoping the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) will help Dylan to get out of that bad habit, and find other ways to express his feelings.

    He has also become increasingly frustrated and angry since ending the Abilify. With no add on, he is struggling.

    We have pretty much figured that the Lithium is doing a good job, he obviously needs an add on (but we don't know what to try), and we're hoping that all this intensive therapy will teach him new ways and techniques to deal with his anger. Luckily for us, he is not "ODD", it's gone, removed from his Axis, and he is not defiant. The woman at the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) almost didn't believe how over-compliant he is, raving about how wonderful it'll be to have someone OFFER to do the dishes lol. That's my son :smile:

    I have cried and tormented myself over this decision after all that was with B. But this is different, and luckily, I do not sign anything over to anyone. Nor is Dylan the same type of child B is, or was, or ever will be.

    I have big hopes for Dylan to make big progress in this environment, but also am realizing how incredibly hard this is. So, for those of you that have had to go this road, that I could not understand before, I fully understand now, and feel your heartache.

    I have received alot of positive feedback from parents that have put their children through Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). I'm hoping this will be positive for Dylan, too!

    Just thought I'd give an update on my sweetheart. Hope you're all well.

  2. On_Call

    On_Call New Member


    I cannot imagine being in your position to have to make that decision, but it is one that has been suggested a time or two to us in the not so distant past and something we may have to revisit in the future. The place you have chosen sounds like a good program. I think the option of riding and caring for horses sounds amazing!

    Crossing my fingers and sending good vibes that it helps Dylan - and is a positive stepping stone! Keep that hope that you have now. It will be hard, but if it helps, it will be worth it.

  3. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    I know you have done the requisite homework and that this is the best place for Dylan to be right now. But I also know it must be breaking your heart. {{{Hugs}}} I'll be keeping Dylan and the whole family in my thoughts.
  4. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    Janna- you are such a strong woman and a great Mom. I admire what you have done and how positive you try to remain.
    It sounds like this is a good place, I hope Dylan can use and make the most of what it has to offer.
    Good luck and keep us updated!!!
  5. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Just here to offer hugs & an ear this morning. :flower:
  6. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    it is bittersweet isnt it? to help them we must let go. you sound so good about all this, the place sounds nice! I wouldnt mind it myself about now.
  7. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I know this isn't easy for you and you are doing it all with such grace. It is the right place for him right now and I also know you will be missing him. Hugs for you. Prayers that Dylan is able to make great strides. :angel:
  8. Janna

    Janna New Member

    You're right, Janet. That is the hardest thing to accept. I have it dug into my brain this is the right thing, but our hearts tell us differently, don't they?

    Thank you all for your positive thoughts. They are appreciated, and is what is keeping me strong.