So this is where everyone is!

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Nancy, Jul 19, 2009.

  1. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Thanks Suz for reminding me that I belong here now that difficult child is 18. And it's so nice to see so many old timers. Looks like I have a new home :).

    Addie if you are reading it's great to see you. I still remember our Niagra Falls trip with fondness.

    Nancy
     
  2. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Welcome to the world of adult kids Nancy. You will find a lot of help here, especially with detachment. Once you've experienced the nirvana of detachment, you will wonder why you waited so long---lol.
     
  3. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I haven't seen Addie around the boards for such a long time! I wonder whatever happened to her?
     
  4. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    Yes, "detachment" is a key word on this forum. Welcome.
     
  5. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Welcome, Nancy. I'm so glad you decided to join us! :D

    Suz :wine:
     
  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Welcome Nancy!!!! :D Glad to sse you over here with us *cough* "older" *cough* crowd. lol

    You're about to discover an adult difficult child is a whole new journey. lol And we'll help with detachment 101. :D

    Hugs
     
  7. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Nancy,

    Welcome to the PE forum. You know I thought for so long that it would be a LONG time before I got to go to the PE forum and time went by like (snap) next think I know Dude is 18. From time to time I'd lurk here and read, and try to prepare myself for what may come to pass. I really drew a lot of strength from the members with older kids who were already tried and had good advice about detaching and letting go but loving.

    The first time I posted here I felt awkward, and a little out of place - much like I did the first time I posted on General years ago. It didn't take long for the board to make me feel just as welcome here as it did there - but thank goodness I already knew people. Being shy has it's disadvantages. ;)

    I still hope you take my advice and buy yourself an "I made it to her 18th birthday" bobble of some kind to remind yourself of how special an accomplishment it really is to raise a child to her or his (in my case) 18th birthday. Everytime I see the ring my Mom got me for raising Dude? I'm reminded that I did the best I could - and it makes me happy. Not that I'm cutting flips that he's a felon, or didn't graduate, or is living in foster care - or (you know) but...I tried. :anxious:

    Hugs
    Star
     
  8. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    :rofl:

    Seasoned?

    Skilled?

    Veteran?

    Venerable?

    Incredibly brilliant? ;)

    Suz
     
  9. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    I like incredibly brilliant...lol
    Although seasoned work well too, since we have all been "cooking" kids the longest!
     
  10. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    EW, I like your thinking. lol.

    You should have seen some of the other choices..."befuddled," how about "enfeebled?"

    Gotta love a thesaurus.

    Suz
     
  11. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Tossing in "Sage" for consideration, but it's hard to beat
    Incredibly brilliant;)

    Sage just brings to mind such a calming color....
     
  12. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Yes, we practically have to wear sunglasses on this forum!
     
  13. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    LOL well thanks for the welcome. I feel like a newbie :).

    I like detachment, I need detachment. I need training though.

    First step...I sent my husband an email at work today with the subject line "Date". I told him Saturday, August 29 we were going out to dinner and to the Brown's exhibition game that evening. We have had season tickets to the Browns for years now but never get to go because of difficult child. So she moves to college August 27 and I am planning out every weekend until Thanksgiving.

    Nancy
     
  14. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    OMG YOU DID NOT TELL ME YOU HAVE SEASON TICKETS -

    RIPS CLEVELAND BROWNS BANNER OFF OFFICE WALL AND WAVES RADICALLY for NANCY TO SEE.....(SEE?)

    GOOOOOOOOOOOO BROWNS!!!!!!!! GOOOOOOOOOO NANCY - HAVE A LOVELY EVENING!!!!! ;)
     
  15. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    :bravo: See, exposure to us is already making you incredibly brilliant. :bravo:

    Suz
     
  16. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Good for you guys! :)
     
  17. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Good for you Nancy. :D

    I plan to super clean my house and then stare at it for at least a week. Why? Cuz there won't be anyone around to trash it within a half hour. :rofl:
     
  18. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Lisa that's a great idea. I plan to gut her room out too and put it back together after I throw out all the junk and clean it. The carpeting is trashed but I can't do anything with that until she is permanently gone. And I fear the college experience will only last one semester.

    Nancy
     
  19. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    But if you change her bedroom into a craft room, she will have to find another alternative to her bedroom. There's a reason there's only one bed in my house! ;)
     
  20. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    When our son (easy child) went to the local college (dorm), I converted his room into my office. It was a little sad. I have a really nice couch in there that opens up. Some of his furniture went with him and some went into the garage and one piece went into difficult child's room.

    Then, difficult child moved out. I changed that room into a guest room. That was easy child's original room, actually. It is on the large side and has a bathroom in it.

    It has a large dresser in it that was originally difficult children. Some of the finishings were originally from easy child's day.

    I have a really beautiful bedspread on the bed and decorated in very nicely. I also have a treadmill in the corner, weights, etc.

    When difficult child and easy child come over, both of them like using the room.

    I do have a bit of an issue if they both come at the same time!!!!
    UGH! I'm working on rectifying it as best as I can.

    It was "hard" for everyone in a way when I redcorated, but it did send a message. I was as gentle as possible. Both adult children know that they are always welcome to stay at my house under certain circumstances, for a finite period of time, and if they follow household rules (nothing harsh, etc.). We try to have a good time.
     
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