So I took the day off to take difficult child to a very important yearly doctor's visit. Texted her this morning, she was awake - I asked if she wanted to get breakfast first and she replied that she had eaten. So, I said okay, I will be there around 9 - 9:30. I get there at 9:13 and I call, and call, and call. No answer. I text, I call. Nothing. This is not exactly a house I want to go knocking on the door at. They have a surveillance camera watching outside activity and several cars in the driveway. Whenever I pick her up or drop her off she always has me park outside of the camera angle. Yeah, no thank you. I waited almost an hour out there trying to reach her. Can you believe that?? After an hour, I left her a note in the mailbox with her insurance card and came back home to work. I left her a voicemail that I am done. I can't be taking time off work for nothing and that it is now her responsibility to call the doctor, reschedule and get herself there. I found that it is about a mile away from her house - she is more than capable to walk that. I told her the doctor can call me and I will pay the copay over the phone, but I am not taking time off anymore to try to help her. I told her not to ask me for anything until she is ready for rehab. So, she calls when I am pulling into my driveway. I live almost an hour away from her. I told her too late. You have missed the appointment. She started apologizing and I hung up. I don't want to hear it. She texts me that she is so sorry she failed me again. I told her that she isn't failing me, she is failing herself. And how can she work this landscaping job when they are on the road at 5 - 6am and she can't even wake up for a doctor's appointment?? I told her that by sleeping through such an important appointment knowing I was on my way there, should show her that this is not normal and she needs to make change. She says she wants to change her life, but those are just words and her actions are certainly not jiving with them. And I don't even want to tell husband because it would just fuel his "told you so" attitude. It has come to the point that I can't even talk about her to him. He is so far beyond over it all. Even when I tell him good news, he doesn't get excited or show any emotion. It really bugs me. I understand how he feels and I totally get that he has detached completely. But I still have hope while it appears he has resigned her to be a drug addict loser indefinitely. Maybe he is right, but gosh I want to believe so badly that he is not.