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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 584918" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Tia, do you have an advocate for the school's stupidity and refusal to follow his IEP and the laws that require them to do things like create and use a positive behavior plan? If you don't, you NEED one and so does difficult child. He is the one who suffers from the school's bad choices.</p><p></p><p>For the theft, please think about filing charges. NOT because you need more things to do, but so that he does not do this again and again. I think a scared straight type of program might work and is worth a shot. If I chose to not file charges, I would at least ask if a police officer could talk to Wiz about the consequences of his actions. You also might consider finding some sort of community service for him to do. </p><p></p><p>I would insist on community service even if no charges are pressed. I am not sure about the amt of charges he tried, but given the $350 and attempted $517, my child would end up doing 120 hours of comm service in addition to having his items sold/pawned to repay both you and your SO. Why 120 hours? $350 plus $517 = $867. I know the $517charge did not go through, but his INTENT was to spend that money. Minimum wage is $7.25 and when you divide $867 by $7.25 you end up with 119.586 which rounds to 120 hours. He has to WORK during those hours, and in my opinion the work should be done for a non-profit group like a church, animal shelter, YMCA, etc... </p><p></p><p>To do the comm service hours, you have to ask to be allowed to volunteer. Choices tend to be limited for those who steal, so they end up doing jobs they may not like. Natural and logical consequences, Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>One of his big problems is being bored. Having to go and do community service will not only expose him to the working world, it will also keep him quite busy so he won't have as much time to be bored. </p><p></p><p>You know your kid, you have great instincts, and this is a crucial time that requires you to follow those instincts. I can tell you what I have done, what I think I may do in the future if faced with this again, but I cannot tell you the right course of action to address this issue. Follow your instincts whether they agree with what the rest of us have said or not.</p><p></p><p>As for school, I would be working to get the case manager (is she an advocate or is she the one who coordinates the various therapies and programs that he is in?) to join me in filing a complaint with the superintendent of the district AND with the state board of education. An advocate would be especially helpful with that. If your case mgr is not very well trained in sp ed laws/loopholes/etc... then adding an advocate to help you and to remind the school of the laws would be very helpful. If you need help finding an advocate, PM your state, city and school district and I will do what I can to help you find one. Usually the state dept of education has advocates that are paid by the state but work for what is best for the child. </p><p></p><p>Whatever happens next, know that you have all of us backing you up. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 584918, member: 1233"] Tia, do you have an advocate for the school's stupidity and refusal to follow his IEP and the laws that require them to do things like create and use a positive behavior plan? If you don't, you NEED one and so does difficult child. He is the one who suffers from the school's bad choices. For the theft, please think about filing charges. NOT because you need more things to do, but so that he does not do this again and again. I think a scared straight type of program might work and is worth a shot. If I chose to not file charges, I would at least ask if a police officer could talk to Wiz about the consequences of his actions. You also might consider finding some sort of community service for him to do. I would insist on community service even if no charges are pressed. I am not sure about the amt of charges he tried, but given the $350 and attempted $517, my child would end up doing 120 hours of comm service in addition to having his items sold/pawned to repay both you and your SO. Why 120 hours? $350 plus $517 = $867. I know the $517charge did not go through, but his INTENT was to spend that money. Minimum wage is $7.25 and when you divide $867 by $7.25 you end up with 119.586 which rounds to 120 hours. He has to WORK during those hours, and in my opinion the work should be done for a non-profit group like a church, animal shelter, YMCA, etc... To do the comm service hours, you have to ask to be allowed to volunteer. Choices tend to be limited for those who steal, so they end up doing jobs they may not like. Natural and logical consequences, Know what I mean?? One of his big problems is being bored. Having to go and do community service will not only expose him to the working world, it will also keep him quite busy so he won't have as much time to be bored. You know your kid, you have great instincts, and this is a crucial time that requires you to follow those instincts. I can tell you what I have done, what I think I may do in the future if faced with this again, but I cannot tell you the right course of action to address this issue. Follow your instincts whether they agree with what the rest of us have said or not. As for school, I would be working to get the case manager (is she an advocate or is she the one who coordinates the various therapies and programs that he is in?) to join me in filing a complaint with the superintendent of the district AND with the state board of education. An advocate would be especially helpful with that. If your case mgr is not very well trained in sp ed laws/loopholes/etc... then adding an advocate to help you and to remind the school of the laws would be very helpful. If you need help finding an advocate, PM your state, city and school district and I will do what I can to help you find one. Usually the state dept of education has advocates that are paid by the state but work for what is best for the child. Whatever happens next, know that you have all of us backing you up. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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