Ha! Lil, D H does not do bathrooms, either. The 75% rule goes like this:
"I want to help with the dishes." (D H helps with the dishes and the cooking whether I want him to or not. He will not do these things alone as a matter of course, but he does like to do cooking and dishes together with me
as he sees it. What I see, of course, is a man in my kitchen, standing forever in just the place I need to be or hogging the dishcloth or dripping across the kitchen floor.)
I know! What an ingrate, right?!?
This unfortunate rule holds true for when we are having people over for dinner, too. There is not one cook, there are two cooks and neither of us knows who has seasoned what with what or how much. When I tell D H to go ahead and make the company dinner so one of us is responsible for whatever it is we are cooking (and I will say D H is the better cook ~ it's the Italian in him) he loses interest. My D H is an Italian male. He likes to be in the kitchen, but mostly for the fun of smelling and watching things brown and showing off when dinner is good.
He tends to take it way seriously when dinner is bad.
Especially if he has cooked a bad dinner.
It's like, how that could happen is the topic of dinner conversation that night.
Anyway, the 75% rule goes like this:
"But I want to help with the dishes! It's not fair for you to have to do all the work alone."
Then, D H happily scrubs away at something until he feels done with it. Whether the item is actually clean or not is not relevant, here.
Whether the item is clean, whether the floor he swept no longer has dirt on it or the item he has again refrigerated should have been thrown out a week ago ~ none of that is the relevant thing.
The thing that matters in any of this, to my D H, is that we did the job together.
Oh for Heaven's sake!!!
One time? We were preparing to leave for the Winter. It was last minute stuff and everything was crazy and I asked D H to sweep the dining room floor. This is a tile floor, right? So, D H swept the floor. When I got around to that part of the house, I thought D H had not had a chance to sweep the floor, so I began to sweep it.
husband: "But I swept the floor."
Me: "But it's not clean."
D H "But I swept the floor."
Me: "But...it's not clean."
My D H seems to feel that if he has swept a thing or washed a thing or made an attempt at pulling up the covers on the bed, he has gone above and beyond the call of duty in the marital arena. He is utterly happy with himself and with me and with the world in general, knowing he has done his part
whether his part is done well, or not.
Thus, the 75% rule.
75% done is done enough.
Cedar
I have just taken to cleaning the kitchen in the morning. If we have a fire or something in the night, no one is going to notice that the dishes are stacked, the pans sort of half-washed and left to drain dry, and the stove has not been cleaned. The cabinet tops will be streaked, and food that should have been tossed will have been refrigerated
in the bowl it was served in.
That is why I love my D H.
Things like the 75% rule.
Life is good.