BusynMember
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I work at a day care center and we had our orientation this week. During the orientation, we had a guest speaker who works for child protective services. Actually, there were two of them, but one did the talking, the other did the nodding her head. I always knew that "child protective services" was a joke, but I didn't know how big of one until we were told about abuse...when to report something and when not to.
I have a scenerio for you: Billy's mother cusses at him and tells him he's worthless constantly. She makes fun of him. She won't buy him any toys or even let him join in family activities. She tells him she hates him, that he is not her son, that somebody else must have had him and dropped her on his doorstep. You are a guest in her house. Can you turn her in for abuse after observing this behavior for, say, a month?
The answer is.....no!!!! There is no such thing as "emotional abuse" to CPS. There is nothing they can do unless the child is physically endangered. So if we know a parent is constantly damaging his/her child psychologically...save the phone call. Just a waste of time that we can't get back. It is not against the law to verbally abuse your child as long as he is fed, goes to school, and his physical needs are taken care of. Taking a child to the doctor is "iffy." Basically, no child is protected unless he has visible bruises all over him. Am I the only one who thinks this is nuts?
I had verification that this is true today because I called social services myself to see if there was anything that J. could do (Jumper's boyfriend) about his parent's hideous verbal abuse. In Wisconsin you can't leave home legally for any reason until you are eighteen. There is no emancipation in WI. Well, no, there is nothing he can do, even though they swear at him, tell him he's useless, pretty much delegate him to his room, take his own things that he bought, etc. etc. etc. Now the black eye COULD be physical abuse, but that all depends on how it happened. If the father was defending himself, it's not abuse, even though his boy is the only one with any marks on him.
I did not realize how useless CPS is until I had that work orientation. I mean, let's go back to, say, a six year old. What in the world can a six year do to defend himself against such horrific verbal abuse? There is absolutely nothing anything can do to help the child either.
I didn't realize that the bar was so high for abuse and, while I understand that there would be a big deal about what verbal abuse is, it really surprised me that they pretty much said they couldn't do anything. They could offer a parent help, but the parent can refuse it.
I don't know about anyone else, but I still remember the verbal abuse I got as a child and I'm 58. It never goes away, although you learn to overcome it (sometimes).
Things that make you go hmmmmmmmm...
I have a scenerio for you: Billy's mother cusses at him and tells him he's worthless constantly. She makes fun of him. She won't buy him any toys or even let him join in family activities. She tells him she hates him, that he is not her son, that somebody else must have had him and dropped her on his doorstep. You are a guest in her house. Can you turn her in for abuse after observing this behavior for, say, a month?
The answer is.....no!!!! There is no such thing as "emotional abuse" to CPS. There is nothing they can do unless the child is physically endangered. So if we know a parent is constantly damaging his/her child psychologically...save the phone call. Just a waste of time that we can't get back. It is not against the law to verbally abuse your child as long as he is fed, goes to school, and his physical needs are taken care of. Taking a child to the doctor is "iffy." Basically, no child is protected unless he has visible bruises all over him. Am I the only one who thinks this is nuts?
I had verification that this is true today because I called social services myself to see if there was anything that J. could do (Jumper's boyfriend) about his parent's hideous verbal abuse. In Wisconsin you can't leave home legally for any reason until you are eighteen. There is no emancipation in WI. Well, no, there is nothing he can do, even though they swear at him, tell him he's useless, pretty much delegate him to his room, take his own things that he bought, etc. etc. etc. Now the black eye COULD be physical abuse, but that all depends on how it happened. If the father was defending himself, it's not abuse, even though his boy is the only one with any marks on him.
I did not realize how useless CPS is until I had that work orientation. I mean, let's go back to, say, a six year old. What in the world can a six year do to defend himself against such horrific verbal abuse? There is absolutely nothing anything can do to help the child either.
I didn't realize that the bar was so high for abuse and, while I understand that there would be a big deal about what verbal abuse is, it really surprised me that they pretty much said they couldn't do anything. They could offer a parent help, but the parent can refuse it.
I don't know about anyone else, but I still remember the verbal abuse I got as a child and I'm 58. It never goes away, although you learn to overcome it (sometimes).
Things that make you go hmmmmmmmm...