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So why do we (or in this case I) miss abusive people? I don't get it.
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 627186" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Isn't it good, but hard, MWM, that writing all this down really helps to clarify to ourselves what is going on and what we don't want to put up with any more. We have all these vague feelings of resentment and hurt and regret floating around, but when we write them down it becomes much sharper. Writing it all down for others to read makes us see things from a different perspective. Sometimes when we are inside a situation we can't really see what is going on. For myself, putting things with my mother into print has made me say to myself "what's going on here? why are you putting up with this?". Reading my posts as if I was someone else forming an opinion or offering advice has made me angry and outraged about my own behaviour. Why am I still seeing her and speaking to her as if everything's fine? I think it's going to be quite a while before I bother visiting her or phoning her again. I'll see what she has to say next time she contacts me, and I'll see what I think of it before jumping in my car and rushing off on on one of my regular dutiful daughterly visits. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>No, me neither.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 627186, member: 17650"] Isn't it good, but hard, MWM, that writing all this down really helps to clarify to ourselves what is going on and what we don't want to put up with any more. We have all these vague feelings of resentment and hurt and regret floating around, but when we write them down it becomes much sharper. Writing it all down for others to read makes us see things from a different perspective. Sometimes when we are inside a situation we can't really see what is going on. For myself, putting things with my mother into print has made me say to myself "what's going on here? why are you putting up with this?". Reading my posts as if I was someone else forming an opinion or offering advice has made me angry and outraged about my own behaviour. Why am I still seeing her and speaking to her as if everything's fine? I think it's going to be quite a while before I bother visiting her or phoning her again. I'll see what she has to say next time she contacts me, and I'll see what I think of it before jumping in my car and rushing off on on one of my regular dutiful daughterly visits. No, me neither. [/QUOTE]
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So why do we (or in this case I) miss abusive people? I don't get it.
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