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Social difficulties/loner by choice--what do you do?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 468042" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Please, do NOT push this on her.</p><p></p><p>Your post SO much reminded me of ME at that age.</p><p>I absolutely did NOT want people around.</p><p>And it was forced on me - and the more it was forced, the more I fought back.</p><p></p><p>I really DID need that much space. Just being around people at school all day was already more than I could handle - then to have to socialize beyond that? No way could I cope.</p><p></p><p>Instead of focussing on the social withdrawal as something to fix... try looking at the rest of her life. Where are the "drains" happening? She's 12 - a crucial point from many angles... hormones kicking in, school work getting significantly harder.</p><p></p><p>I'd step back, and take a look at what is happening at school. She may have some hidden issues you haven't found yet - mild motor skills problems, mild sensory issues, learning disabilities... and increased social pressure. Maybe she is finding it harder and harder to "hold it all together".</p><p></p><p>I'm basing this both on my own experience... and on our difficult child. Anxiety and depression started with school... and were purely secondary - caused by all sorts of hidden problems that its taken 10 years to get to the bottom of. It won't take you as long - these things are more "known" now... PLEASE dig deeper.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 468042, member: 11791"] Please, do NOT push this on her. Your post SO much reminded me of ME at that age. I absolutely did NOT want people around. And it was forced on me - and the more it was forced, the more I fought back. I really DID need that much space. Just being around people at school all day was already more than I could handle - then to have to socialize beyond that? No way could I cope. Instead of focussing on the social withdrawal as something to fix... try looking at the rest of her life. Where are the "drains" happening? She's 12 - a crucial point from many angles... hormones kicking in, school work getting significantly harder. I'd step back, and take a look at what is happening at school. She may have some hidden issues you haven't found yet - mild motor skills problems, mild sensory issues, learning disabilities... and increased social pressure. Maybe she is finding it harder and harder to "hold it all together". I'm basing this both on my own experience... and on our difficult child. Anxiety and depression started with school... and were purely secondary - caused by all sorts of hidden problems that its taken 10 years to get to the bottom of. It won't take you as long - these things are more "known" now... PLEASE dig deeper. [/QUOTE]
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