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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 598722" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I have to say I like your attitude <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /></p><p></p><p>And I do very much sympathise. That combination of bulletproofness/wishful thinking/rules don't apply me (at least unless personally told)-attitude, can be rather irritating to say the least. </p><p></p><p>Of course handling social media really is challenging. Being good at that requires so many skills. You have to think ahead, understand potential consequences, make quite complicated risk evaluations, go through several 'if's, understand other people perspective and reading on what you put up there. Handle your output skillful enough to make others understand what you meant to tell by it, remain cool headed and not get caught at the moment and much more. It is difficult to even well adjusted teens at times and even big accidents can happen. It's even more difficult for our troubled children. And while we can minimize some of the hazards simply forbidding it from them, that can be a poor cop out in the long run. Social media is not going anywhere, they absolutely have to learn to handle it, because most likely it will be part of their life sooner or later anyway. Just forbidding it till they turn 18 doesn't solve the problem any more than locking them into the house till they are 18, because they can't handle traffic or interacting with people. So we just face the exhausting battle of trying to teach, giving privileges, revoking them when abused, giving a new chance etc.</p><p></p><p>Mine have not made any major gaffes with social media till now *knocking wood* and they did the smaller ones when they were young enough that those didn't matter much. But still I dread every time when opening especially difficult child's FB or Twitter page. Especially FB, because that is supposed to be more 'private' (with all those about 1000 'friends', from whom half don't even like him) with Twitter at least having a heavy reporter presence in his followers keeps rules in his mind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 598722, member: 14557"] I have to say I like your attitude :bigsmile: And I do very much sympathise. That combination of bulletproofness/wishful thinking/rules don't apply me (at least unless personally told)-attitude, can be rather irritating to say the least. Of course handling social media really is challenging. Being good at that requires so many skills. You have to think ahead, understand potential consequences, make quite complicated risk evaluations, go through several 'if's, understand other people perspective and reading on what you put up there. Handle your output skillful enough to make others understand what you meant to tell by it, remain cool headed and not get caught at the moment and much more. It is difficult to even well adjusted teens at times and even big accidents can happen. It's even more difficult for our troubled children. And while we can minimize some of the hazards simply forbidding it from them, that can be a poor cop out in the long run. Social media is not going anywhere, they absolutely have to learn to handle it, because most likely it will be part of their life sooner or later anyway. Just forbidding it till they turn 18 doesn't solve the problem any more than locking them into the house till they are 18, because they can't handle traffic or interacting with people. So we just face the exhausting battle of trying to teach, giving privileges, revoking them when abused, giving a new chance etc. Mine have not made any major gaffes with social media till now *knocking wood* and they did the smaller ones when they were young enough that those didn't matter much. But still I dread every time when opening especially difficult child's FB or Twitter page. Especially FB, because that is supposed to be more 'private' (with all those about 1000 'friends', from whom half don't even like him) with Twitter at least having a heavy reporter presence in his followers keeps rules in his mind. [/QUOTE]
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