Mattsmom277
Active Member
So M's bio dad is a putz. Always has been, always will be. One thing he has always done though is worked. Good paying job contracts. He has NEVER willingly sent a single payment in all of M's 18 years of life. Not a single payment. The payments are not even a fifth of what he SHOULD have paid based on our court systems payment amount chart. He got off easy because I asked for a much smaller amount as a "show of good faith" and allowed him to contribute extra as he saw fit. Not only did he never see fit to contribute more, the support just grew and grew.
Every 2-3 years he'll file all of his taxes at once and I will get a large payment since any tax refunds are garnished and sent to me. Otherwise, zip. Nada. The amount he owes me is absolutely insane.
Before M moved across country, right after his 18th birthday, bio dad called him (shocking in itself!!). During the call he mentioned he was angry that his tax return was once again garnished 100% (he'd withheld filing last year in anticipation of filing both years this year and making sure I didn't get a penny). He told M that now that he was 18, he was going to take me to court to end the child support since he was over 18, leaving school and moving out. He told M that now he can finally have a drivers license, get credit, buy a car, get a mortgage etc. All things he hasn't had for the past 18 years because here in this province these things are all prohibited if you are in arrears of support. He went on to tell M that now that he is over 18, the debt is gone and how dare I be getting his tax refund.
So Friday the tax refund comes, just shy of $1K which was nice since S/O isn't working yet since his graduation. I mention it to M who tells me that his dad called him again and ranted about this. He also said that I'll be getting court papers because his dad says this is somehow my doing, blah blah blah.
I just had to laugh. This is perfect. He will never arrive for court if I had started the proceedings. By him starting it, I can finally get him in front of the judge here in town. The same judge who said if child support for M was in arrears again in her court, she was jailing bio dad.
Now don't get me wrong, I will openly tell the judge jailing him does nothing, certainly doesn't get me my back support. However, he avoided court in the past when I started the actions because he didn't want to give a court his employer information, by which he can have 60% of his pay garnished until his support is up to date. This judge also was angry at his failing to appear for the last series of hearings (many years ago) because she had to base his support on earning minimum wage since we had no documentation of his earnings. She made it clear that if we go to court again, she would require all tax returns since M's birth and would sign a order at the proper court mandated amount for his income, in retro payment.
So not only will he have to provide his employer information, but he will also end up drastically altering his debt load to me. Frankly I could care less about the money. I've never had it coming into the household budget so it isn't something I give thought to. M however told me he'd feel better knowing that his father was made to "man up" and pay proper support, and has asked me to ensure the court does order the charted amount in arrears. M isn't trying to punish his father, he actually is giving his father (in M's mind) a chance to fix his lack of contributions and make M have a bit of respect for him.
So he's about to accumulate a huge amount of debt beyond the current amount, he will have to provide his employer information and he still won't have a license or ability to get credit cards, a car and a mortgage. The guys an idiot.
The dumbest part is that to end the support, all that is needed for him to contact the child support enforcement agency and notify them that M does not live here any longer. The agency would then confirm it with me, and the monthly amount would not longer be attributed to him as a debt. Instead he's being a putz and taking me to court, which is going to bite him in the who-zee-whats-it.
Every 2-3 years he'll file all of his taxes at once and I will get a large payment since any tax refunds are garnished and sent to me. Otherwise, zip. Nada. The amount he owes me is absolutely insane.
Before M moved across country, right after his 18th birthday, bio dad called him (shocking in itself!!). During the call he mentioned he was angry that his tax return was once again garnished 100% (he'd withheld filing last year in anticipation of filing both years this year and making sure I didn't get a penny). He told M that now that he was 18, he was going to take me to court to end the child support since he was over 18, leaving school and moving out. He told M that now he can finally have a drivers license, get credit, buy a car, get a mortgage etc. All things he hasn't had for the past 18 years because here in this province these things are all prohibited if you are in arrears of support. He went on to tell M that now that he is over 18, the debt is gone and how dare I be getting his tax refund.
So Friday the tax refund comes, just shy of $1K which was nice since S/O isn't working yet since his graduation. I mention it to M who tells me that his dad called him again and ranted about this. He also said that I'll be getting court papers because his dad says this is somehow my doing, blah blah blah.
I just had to laugh. This is perfect. He will never arrive for court if I had started the proceedings. By him starting it, I can finally get him in front of the judge here in town. The same judge who said if child support for M was in arrears again in her court, she was jailing bio dad.
Now don't get me wrong, I will openly tell the judge jailing him does nothing, certainly doesn't get me my back support. However, he avoided court in the past when I started the actions because he didn't want to give a court his employer information, by which he can have 60% of his pay garnished until his support is up to date. This judge also was angry at his failing to appear for the last series of hearings (many years ago) because she had to base his support on earning minimum wage since we had no documentation of his earnings. She made it clear that if we go to court again, she would require all tax returns since M's birth and would sign a order at the proper court mandated amount for his income, in retro payment.
So not only will he have to provide his employer information, but he will also end up drastically altering his debt load to me. Frankly I could care less about the money. I've never had it coming into the household budget so it isn't something I give thought to. M however told me he'd feel better knowing that his father was made to "man up" and pay proper support, and has asked me to ensure the court does order the charted amount in arrears. M isn't trying to punish his father, he actually is giving his father (in M's mind) a chance to fix his lack of contributions and make M have a bit of respect for him.
So he's about to accumulate a huge amount of debt beyond the current amount, he will have to provide his employer information and he still won't have a license or ability to get credit cards, a car and a mortgage. The guys an idiot.
The dumbest part is that to end the support, all that is needed for him to contact the child support enforcement agency and notify them that M does not live here any longer. The agency would then confirm it with me, and the monthly amount would not longer be attributed to him as a debt. Instead he's being a putz and taking me to court, which is going to bite him in the who-zee-whats-it.
WOW were you married to my husband too? 
