Just a quick note--moderators, feel free to close it out soon--to thank everyone here for tolerating my early posts, most of which were judgmental and angry (at my nephew difficult child and his enabling mother, but by transference I displaced it onto others here) and stern--"Let him plummet! He doesn't deserve any consideration, after what he's done!", etc etc), which received from entirely justified chides from many of you. I've calmed down, read and learned a TON from all of you, and really gotten to a much, much wiser and more productive place as a consequence--and, most important of all, I've begun to feel that I can really help a few people every now and again, when I remember to just stick to what I know well and otherwise just listen, listen, listen. I've seen my member status gradually inch upward from Newbie (and god knows I was, a very raw Newbie) to "learning the ropes" and then, just tonight, to "apprentice," and you don't know how much that means to me--I guess it must be like how it feels for an alcoholic to earn those early poker chips in recovery. But I've learned so much, come to empathize and understand so much that I originally just regarded sourly and with an attitude of superior "wisdom," and that has helped me enormously as I come to terms with my experience of the difficult child in my family--and as I've learned to occasionally be useful to others here, when the context of a thread permits my slender experience to do that. So thanks to all of you--very sincerely. OK, end of sidebar--thanks for listening.