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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 352892" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Well, he's 15yo now and just got released from state Department of Juvenile Justice custody on parole- he was incarcerated about 2 weeks after turning 14yo. So before he went in, I would not give him condoms at that age. Shortly before he got released I started talking to him about being able to date once his parole officer lets him off house arrest and loosens up on a curfew enough. I'd talked to him previously about morals but understanding all people can't/won't wait so the main thing is to be safe, however, since he has waited this long and not been careless in this area, I'd hope he would date a girl first and get to know her and make sure they care about each other, etc, then I would get him condoms to make sure they protected themselves and prevent an unplanned pregnancy. I sped it up a little about the time he was discharged and told him I would make sure he knew the appropriate way to put on a condom- by using something else of course. Anyway, it's not providing condoms that I'm so worried about- but my son has a bigger problem with telling too much than with keeping a lie for a long time, so maybe I can get what's going on soon. I am sure that he understands the importance of not having unprotected sex. It's just a matter of him revealing what is going on- even when I gave him the talk about dating a girl for a while and so forth I told him that under any circumstances, if he's in high school and she's in his age range so it's not illegal, just come to me to talk about it- I'd rather get them for him than end up in a very sad situation. I think he will. I'm not so sure though that an 18 yo is appropriate- honestly I don't. But she is a neighbor and they've confided in each other for about 3 years (minus time locked up) so I am not sure that's what's going on- maybe they are just friends but difficult child has fantasies- I don't know- she has some issues of her own- a broken home life, she's obese, if she was raped that's a biggie...</p><p></p><p>I'm keeping a close eye on things the next couple of days and I will try to determine more. He's only been out 16 days I tthink so his mind is still teetering between a lot of things. I don't want him having unprotected sex either- I'm just hoping he'll wait but I'm ok with him carrying a condom around just in case.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352892, member: 3699"] Well, he's 15yo now and just got released from state Department of Juvenile Justice custody on parole- he was incarcerated about 2 weeks after turning 14yo. So before he went in, I would not give him condoms at that age. Shortly before he got released I started talking to him about being able to date once his parole officer lets him off house arrest and loosens up on a curfew enough. I'd talked to him previously about morals but understanding all people can't/won't wait so the main thing is to be safe, however, since he has waited this long and not been careless in this area, I'd hope he would date a girl first and get to know her and make sure they care about each other, etc, then I would get him condoms to make sure they protected themselves and prevent an unplanned pregnancy. I sped it up a little about the time he was discharged and told him I would make sure he knew the appropriate way to put on a condom- by using something else of course. Anyway, it's not providing condoms that I'm so worried about- but my son has a bigger problem with telling too much than with keeping a lie for a long time, so maybe I can get what's going on soon. I am sure that he understands the importance of not having unprotected sex. It's just a matter of him revealing what is going on- even when I gave him the talk about dating a girl for a while and so forth I told him that under any circumstances, if he's in high school and she's in his age range so it's not illegal, just come to me to talk about it- I'd rather get them for him than end up in a very sad situation. I think he will. I'm not so sure though that an 18 yo is appropriate- honestly I don't. But she is a neighbor and they've confided in each other for about 3 years (minus time locked up) so I am not sure that's what's going on- maybe they are just friends but difficult child has fantasies- I don't know- she has some issues of her own- a broken home life, she's obese, if she was raped that's a biggie... I'm keeping a close eye on things the next couple of days and I will try to determine more. He's only been out 16 days I tthink so his mind is still teetering between a lot of things. I don't want him having unprotected sex either- I'm just hoping he'll wait but I'm ok with him carrying a condom around just in case. [/QUOTE]
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