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<blockquote data-quote="aishacbell" data-source="post: 142475" data-attributes="member: 4993"><p>Hi there everybody, I'm hoping you might be able to offer me some advice on my 8 yr old son <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" />.</p><p> </p><p>He is on the Asperger's scale, and has Dyspraxia. I am also totally absolutly convinced he has ODD but the health visitor just wont have it and says its a 'made up disorder'.</p><p> </p><p>He argues ALL the time, every question is answered by shouting and screaming, even simple thing like what did you have for lunch, he blames his younger brother for everything, he gets really stressed if you try and talk to him.</p><p> </p><p>A typical example of what happens daily in our house - </p><p> </p><p>Son throws rubbish across the room/ spits / draws on coffee table / jumps across sofa / pushes brother over etc etc</p><p>Mum - Why did you do that??</p><p>SON - (Shrugs shoulders) I don't know</p><p>MUM - But you know its wrong to do that don't you?</p><p>SON - Yes</p><p>MUM - So why do it?</p><p>SON - I DONT KNOW (shouting angrily)</p><p>MUM - I'm not shouting why are you?</p><p>SON - I DONT KNOW (Getting louder and louder and almost crying at this point, foaming at the mouth, stamping feet)</p><p>MUM - OK Lets count to ten to calm down</p><p>SON - (crying) I'm tired (falls on the floor, throws arms about)</p><p>MUM - Please get up</p><p>SON - But I'm tired, i hate it here, (more throwing himself around)</p><p> </p><p>After about 10 mins of the 'I'm tired', he will give in and stand up. When you try and talk to him again, he just stares blankly at you, ignoring every word you say, waiting for you to finish what your saying.</p><p> </p><p>Things we have asked him not to do he does anyway. Its like he really doesn't care about what we say or have any respect for us. </p><p> </p><p>Everything is a battle.</p><p> </p><p>We don't ever shout at him, we don't smack him, though i do had to restrain myself sometimes. </p><p> </p><p>He is absolutely fine at school, teacher have no trouble with him. Lots of friends, though none of them wants to come around our house anymore because he takes over and breaks there toys.</p><p> </p><p>Everyday is a battle from the minuet he wakes up, just getting him to get dressed & brush his teeth is like WW3.</p><p> </p><p>We just don't know where to turn anymore HV isn't interested, just says, 'ignore the bad, praise the good' and get a reward chart, but they just don't work, that's just a green light to carry on.</p><p> </p><p>Help us please <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aishacbell, post: 142475, member: 4993"] Hi there everybody, I'm hoping you might be able to offer me some advice on my 8 yr old son :(. He is on the Asperger's scale, and has Dyspraxia. I am also totally absolutly convinced he has ODD but the health visitor just wont have it and says its a 'made up disorder'. He argues ALL the time, every question is answered by shouting and screaming, even simple thing like what did you have for lunch, he blames his younger brother for everything, he gets really stressed if you try and talk to him. A typical example of what happens daily in our house - Son throws rubbish across the room/ spits / draws on coffee table / jumps across sofa / pushes brother over etc etc Mum - Why did you do that?? SON - (Shrugs shoulders) I don't know MUM - But you know its wrong to do that don't you? SON - Yes MUM - So why do it? SON - I DONT KNOW (shouting angrily) MUM - I'm not shouting why are you? SON - I DONT KNOW (Getting louder and louder and almost crying at this point, foaming at the mouth, stamping feet) MUM - OK Lets count to ten to calm down SON - (crying) I'm tired (falls on the floor, throws arms about) MUM - Please get up SON - But I'm tired, i hate it here, (more throwing himself around) After about 10 mins of the 'I'm tired', he will give in and stand up. When you try and talk to him again, he just stares blankly at you, ignoring every word you say, waiting for you to finish what your saying. Things we have asked him not to do he does anyway. Its like he really doesn't care about what we say or have any respect for us. Everything is a battle. We don't ever shout at him, we don't smack him, though i do had to restrain myself sometimes. He is absolutely fine at school, teacher have no trouble with him. Lots of friends, though none of them wants to come around our house anymore because he takes over and breaks there toys. Everyday is a battle from the minuet he wakes up, just getting him to get dressed & brush his teeth is like WW3. We just don't know where to turn anymore HV isn't interested, just says, 'ignore the bad, praise the good' and get a reward chart, but they just don't work, that's just a green light to carry on. Help us please :( [/QUOTE]
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