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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 475136" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I think it is wonderful how insightful you are about the buttons that he can push that make you maybe not handle things like you would prefer to handle them. I have worked hard on this and I wish I had all of you many years ago. It IS hard to not take it personally which is why I do give people who work with my difficult child a break as long as they are not abusive, I know there is a learning curve. For me, I can handle name calling, swearing, (and I had to LEARN to tell myself a different translation of what he says/does...I literally say to myself he is really saying XYZ--like I am really scared or frustrated etc.), and even the physical stuff. BUt I g NUTS with spitting. And wouldn't you know he is spitting now. OMGosh... he usually does it when he has a cold or allergies so it is not all the time, seems to be triggered by that. but now it seems he is doing it all of the time. It is just the most vile thing to me. I can even take biting! I really have to work on this. I am so afraid I will increase it with my negative attention to it. </p><p></p><p>I think it is interesting that he becomes so sweet and happy when doing a structured activity. It shows me something about his learning style. Do you think so? HE must be comfortable taking in information and doing activities when things are step by step or directed by someone. Good thing to know in a school setting...pick learning environments carefully, smile. (I know you do)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 475136, member: 12886"] I think it is wonderful how insightful you are about the buttons that he can push that make you maybe not handle things like you would prefer to handle them. I have worked hard on this and I wish I had all of you many years ago. It IS hard to not take it personally which is why I do give people who work with my difficult child a break as long as they are not abusive, I know there is a learning curve. For me, I can handle name calling, swearing, (and I had to LEARN to tell myself a different translation of what he says/does...I literally say to myself he is really saying XYZ--like I am really scared or frustrated etc.), and even the physical stuff. BUt I g NUTS with spitting. And wouldn't you know he is spitting now. OMGosh... he usually does it when he has a cold or allergies so it is not all the time, seems to be triggered by that. but now it seems he is doing it all of the time. It is just the most vile thing to me. I can even take biting! I really have to work on this. I am so afraid I will increase it with my negative attention to it. I think it is interesting that he becomes so sweet and happy when doing a structured activity. It shows me something about his learning style. Do you think so? HE must be comfortable taking in information and doing activities when things are step by step or directed by someone. Good thing to know in a school setting...pick learning environments carefully, smile. (I know you do) [/QUOTE]
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