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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 607269" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>JKF, this is when you have to believe for the best. Believe that your son will survive, and that he will learn from this experience. Begin planning to send him to the relative. Sometimes, that is just the change they need ~ once the kids realize there are consequences to their decisions. I am sorry you experienced providing those things ~ the sleeping bag and the sandwiches ~ for your son. It kills, to do that. But you have done the right thing, JKF. Your son did know what would happen if he did what he did. He did it, anyway. I'm not talking consequences. I'm talking choices. For reasons we will never understand, there are some children who need to do it this way.</p><p></p><p>My daughter was one.</p><p></p><p>I bought her a sleeping bag, too. Sent food, and heard all about how she and the bad man enjoyed it.</p><p></p><p>But I did what I could do. And so did you. More than anything, your son needs to know you love him. He knows that. Why ever it is that he needs to go through this terribly dangerous part of his journey, that is what he has elected to do.</p><p></p><p>All we can do sometimes is love them through it.</p><p></p><p>You are doing that. You didn't turn away, you didn't condemn him. Because you were there, he has a strength so many street people do not have. This is something my daughter told me. Though she chose the street life, she was never hopeless, because we loved her.</p><p></p><p>Your son knows you love him. He probably doesn't understand why he needs to do this anymore than we do. But your love, your compassion and understanding will help hm come back.</p><p></p><p>As Recovering so often tells us, pray a white light around him. Love him. </p><p></p><p>Love yourself through it too, JKF. There is strength to be found in accepting what is and loving the child, anyway. If your son is wiling to try moving to another area, the experiences he is having now will help him to do better, there.</p><p></p><p>Remember when I told you difficult child daughter said the street has its own community? Believe in that, and believe your son is safe and warm and learning what he set out to learn.</p><p></p><p>We are all here for you, JKF. I know what this feels like. I know too, that your suffering is not going to change anything for your son. Take care of yourself. Get out of the house. With husband, if you can do it. Really try to understand that, though we cannot see it, there may be a purpose here.</p><p></p><p>All those things help me.</p><p></p><p>But I get it that nothing really helps, and I'm so sorry this is happening.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 607269, member: 1721"] JKF, this is when you have to believe for the best. Believe that your son will survive, and that he will learn from this experience. Begin planning to send him to the relative. Sometimes, that is just the change they need ~ once the kids realize there are consequences to their decisions. I am sorry you experienced providing those things ~ the sleeping bag and the sandwiches ~ for your son. It kills, to do that. But you have done the right thing, JKF. Your son did know what would happen if he did what he did. He did it, anyway. I'm not talking consequences. I'm talking choices. For reasons we will never understand, there are some children who need to do it this way. My daughter was one. I bought her a sleeping bag, too. Sent food, and heard all about how she and the bad man enjoyed it. But I did what I could do. And so did you. More than anything, your son needs to know you love him. He knows that. Why ever it is that he needs to go through this terribly dangerous part of his journey, that is what he has elected to do. All we can do sometimes is love them through it. You are doing that. You didn't turn away, you didn't condemn him. Because you were there, he has a strength so many street people do not have. This is something my daughter told me. Though she chose the street life, she was never hopeless, because we loved her. Your son knows you love him. He probably doesn't understand why he needs to do this anymore than we do. But your love, your compassion and understanding will help hm come back. As Recovering so often tells us, pray a white light around him. Love him. Love yourself through it too, JKF. There is strength to be found in accepting what is and loving the child, anyway. If your son is wiling to try moving to another area, the experiences he is having now will help him to do better, there. Remember when I told you difficult child daughter said the street has its own community? Believe in that, and believe your son is safe and warm and learning what he set out to learn. We are all here for you, JKF. I know what this feels like. I know too, that your suffering is not going to change anything for your son. Take care of yourself. Get out of the house. With husband, if you can do it. Really try to understand that, though we cannot see it, there may be a purpose here. All those things help me. But I get it that nothing really helps, and I'm so sorry this is happening. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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